I've been thinking about posting this all day but I didn't want anyone to think I was a terrible person. Now that I've thought about it, I WAS a terrible person today. An ungrateful bitch, to be exact. My husband works nights, and when he came home this morning, he gave me my Valentine gift. A beautiful card and a small box of chocolates. I told him thank you and we shared a kiss. For the next hour, I silently stewed over my gifts. All it took after that was him asking me "Do you like your candy?" I started making snide remarks about how I didn't like "that brand" and how I've told him 100 times what brand I like. From then on, it was downhill. I ended up tearing up both his and my Valentine Cards into little pieces and throwing them at him. I think I've finally gone totally around the bend. Sorry doesn't begin to say how I feel. I know I acted about five years old. I have no idea what to say to him.

We haven't talked all day.

Wow, so sorry this happened Texasgirl. I know how you feel about having to repeat yourself to your significant other. 3 times at dinner, my bf asked if I wanted tea & 3 times I said no. I just laughed to myself at his inability to absorb information that comes out of my mouth. I'm sure your husband will forgive you if you just say "I'm sorry". You'll probably tell him about what brand you like a 100 more times, & he'll still forget. He's a guy, & they don't think like we do! Maybe he has meno brain.......good luck

If your man is worth having (and it sounds like he is, based on that he did ANYTHING for you for Valentine's Day), I'm sure a really heartfelt "I'm sorry" will do the trick. But you might wanna look inside yourself and find out why that bothered you so much. What are you REALLY mad at? A box of less-then-favorite candy or something else?

Well, before he left for work last night, I apologized. Once again, after one of my crazy "RAGE" episodes, he was very understanding and accepted my apology. I still really don't know what set me off. There seems to be no rhyme or reason to these bursts of childish fits. I know my period is due anyday, though. I guess after being married almost 30 years, he's seen it all from me..... I'm telling myself today will be better.

Texasgirl: Forgive yourself. I've done the same thing; torn up cards into little pieces and thrown them at my husband. I've been unreasonable, ungrateful, bitchy, and difficult to live with. So has he. We all go through these things...granted they aren't our 'proudest moments' but they're very, very human. Try writing him a letter telling how sorry you are for the way you acted...just a suggestion...

I so remember doing the same types of things... before I even knew it was peri causing it. Those sudden, intense, short bursts of unrerasonable anger and the words I should never have spoken... I'm so glad I know now that it was all hormones causing it. My husband and son are understanding about it and it sounds as if your husband is too. Since you feel bad about your outburst, maybe do something special and fun for your husband that you both will enjoy... it could make both of you feel better about the incident and then you can put it past you.

Happymom

Here's to better days ahead!!!

TJ

I kinda acted the same way as you Texasgirl.....When i got home from work(tired and grouchy) my hubby told me to look in the refrig. to see what he had got me(was it candy?Brownies?a pie?....)it was a spiral ham...needless to say,i threw a little tantrum.Cooking a ham dinner is not my idea of a valentine's gift....i felt bad,apologized and cooked the ham .It was a good dinner,i didn't enjoy cooking it but felt obligated after the way i had acted.So in my eyes,we're kinda even now.

Dear'Texasgirl'
It is really o.k. It is fantastic that you apologised and of course he accepted he loves you

Rage is something we all deal with and it is always very hard to quit sometimes,but it is hormonal.Try punching an old pillow when you feel you want to explode.Or go outside and howl to the moon.

Warm Wishes
Elizabeth

I posted something similar last year but didn't rip the cards (I have done this before on our anniversary)

This year we agreed not to buy anything but a card but hubby turned up with a bouquet, chocolates and two books for me.

I had considered it but stuck to my guns and didn't buy a gift.

I made him a lovely Valentine card in a box.

He opened the box and the middle fell out of the card!

http://www.power-surge.com/php/forums/inde...mp;hl=valentine

This may make you feel better!

Apologize, accept forgiveness, forgive yourself, and move on. This has become my recipe for the ups and downs that hormonal hell can bring on.

TG, I admire how you handled the situation. Go easy on yourself.

Very best,
Marcy

I'll have to try that next time I feel that much anger comming on. Thanks to ALL OF YOU for great responses!

Well at least you GOT something.....I didn't