I feel I may be becoming "toxic" to this website. I simply may have become too comfortable with my new friends that I actually considered menosister and adore dearly which may have lead me to become a bit outspoken...My intentions in any post I have ever made was to help not hurt and I'm not sure I am not hurting people. I would like some serious imput on if you think my behavior is out of line before I make my decision ok? this is NOT going to turn into a fiasco....I simply want opinions on others to get myself in check. I love you all and really value the relationships here but I think I need a reality check. Help me with this will ya?

simply want opinions FROM others is what I meant!

Me Thinks you are overpicking at yourself - most likely another symptom. I have personally not seen you say anything out of line (admittedly I may have missed something)

HUGS!

Lady, I don't know why you feel this way. I'm assuming that something happened, someone said something or you are just having "one of those days." But, every single one of us has something to contribute here. Life experiences and perspectives that can possibly help another. Tell us why you feel this way.

(((Lady)))

You're a very sweet and supportive person and your intentions are always good. Please dont doubt yourself ---I think I know why you're so upset - I would be too. Just DONT go away, okay?


(((hugs)))

OMG Ladybugs! Please dont leave, I am not sure what happened and I hope I didnt say anything??? If I did, please tell me. Anywho, dont leave. Like it has been said, everyone has something to contribute to the boards and will help someone:)

HUGS
Kim

Ladybugs, please don't disappear from this board!! I think your posts bring us a breath of fresh air. I enjoy reading everything you have to say. Maybe you're feeling out of sorts today but please don't leave.

Lady bugs please don't leave i read your post all the time and i don't see anything that you have did or said wrong. If you leave you will be greatly missed please considerate not leaving. If you feel you need to get away from site for a bit nd have some fun and look at our pics always come to facebook where the sister are all at. Hugs Terry

Lady,

There have been times when I, too, have felt like leaving. I have upset someone and I feel so bad I think I am toxic, or someone has upset ME and I think, "I don't need this!" But in the end, I calm down, apologize if necessary and move on. The friends I have made here are too important to me now, I don't want to.

I don't know what happened, in your case, but give yourself a couple of days to calm down, let those emotions settle. I can't imagine you really want to leave us!! And we don't want you to go either!!

Well I haven't read anything that you wrote that sounded offensive but I know that I find myself often regretting things I said or things I've posted. It's probably just a sensitive nature. Be kind to yourself :-) or if it would make you feel better pm the person you feel you may have offended.

I've considered trying to wean myself off this site simply because it's so time consuming. I get on here and the time goes so quickly, I look up and my day is gone and I've accomplished nothing. I need to set limits. :-)

But unless that is your reason I say forgive yourself and go on.

I actually DID leave for a while, ladybugs. I said something that got blown out of proportion and hurt someone's feelings. I was sorry about that, but what angered me was how I got jumped on in the public forum. I wished someone would have PM'd me if they had a problem. I was really upset over it and stayed gone for a couple of months. I got to missing the site and the girls though and came back.

it's easy to be really open and opinionated when you're typing on a keyboard instead of looking someone in the face. God knows I've typed things -- both good and bad -- that I would NEVER had said to someone in person! I'm sure we've all typed things we wish we hadn't. I don't recall you saying anything out of line. If someone got offended, it just could be that they were having a bad day. Hopefully you'll decide to stay on.

"it's easy to be really open and opinionated when you're typing on a keyboard instead of looking someone in the face."

So true Weblina.

Ladybugs,
I think I know what upset you. I'd include the post but I don't know if you'd want that.
Your post was totally well meaning and for the life of me I could not understand why you received such a nasty response.
I can see why you got your feelings hurt though, but don't leave!!

Please stay, I think you have to take things like that with a grain of salt. Not everyone is going to agree with you, but you ARE entitled to your opinion. Sometimes things do get out of hand, and some people can be mean spirited, but don't let people put a muzzle on you! You have valuable information to share, so please share it!

TJ

Ladybugs:

Quit it!!!! You are doing no harm. I for one, value your words of wisdom and kindness always!

Hugs to you,
Jeaninne

Ladybugs...

We need you and I hope you need us...don't go!!!!!!!!!

Caz

Oh, please don't go!!!!

ladybugs: Don't go! I have caused a lot of controversy on this board...from starting a thread about tatoos, to getting overly involved in someone's personal life. We make mistakes, we learn, we move on. Life isn't about lollipops and roses, and everyone getting along. It's about interaction-debate-sharing-and overcoming hard times. I would miss you if you left. Please stay.

I'm going to hold my breath until you say you aren't leaving.

...'c'mon, now I'm turning blue!

Robin...you can breathe now, I've decided to stay. I walked away from all this yesterday to do some thinking. I've come up with NO answers of course other than the conclusion that my life seems to be at yet another fork in the road (do they EVER end???). I've been hit especially hard the last month with emotional issues and I think I was worried it would start spilling over into here and that is not what I want. To come on and complain in my own thread is one thing but I don't want to drag it into others. Make sense? It seems like the further I go into this meno journey...the more messy things get in my life. I feel like I am spinning in circles most days for NOTHING! Thank you all for the kind words though. It IS nice to know I'm welcome.

It's really nice that you decided to stay How is hubby doing?

It's really nice that you decided to stay How is hubby doing?

YEA!!!! Ladybugs is back where she belongs!