To be blissfully unaware we are in meno....I wish! The future of meno looks grim. It's full of aches and pain and fear and sorrow to the depths of the soul. It's a transition that is dark and angry and scary as h*ll and for those who do not know what's going on, openly deny it or simply want to pretend it doesn't exist I say let them be. There is a peace to ignorance sometimes...it's like a demon waiting in the dark to swallow you whole on a daily basis. I'd rather keep my eyes shut and stay in the light if I could..but no, stupid me knows too much!

Yes, while I understand this really is stupid advice...maybe I just wish I could forget...just for a little while.

Ok this was simply a weak meno moment for me...just ignore the post, I'm not in a very good mood today, can ya tell?

((((ladybugs))))....
I personally am glad that i KNOW i'm in peri....cause i honestly thought i was having a nervous breakdown before i understood what was going on.
But do i wish i could have all these symptoms and somehow be oblivious to them?of course....

Dear'ladybugs'

I get what you are saying and yes I do believe a few women waltz around trying to look and feel perfect.Granted some have a smoother transition than others

However,ignorance is not bliss.I wish my mother had talked about it with me.So have educated my daughter,who is 34,as much as possible.Just pray she deals with it better than I ever did.

It is so great that this Forum exists and Ladies tell of their experiences.Then I sigh with relief and remember I am not probably as nuts as I used to think.

Warm Wishes
Elizabeth

I AGREE, AFTER THE STATEMENT CAME OUT OF MY MOUTH I REALIZED I WOULD WANT TO KNOW. I CHALK THIS UP TO JUST BEING IN A VERY DARK PLACE YESTERDAY FOR SOME REASON. I'M NOT USUALLY THIS BAD BUT THIS LAST MONTH HAD BEEN REALLY HAIRY FOR ME EMOTIONALLY AND STRESSWISE AND I THINK I JUST KINDA POPPED YESTERDAY. SORRY IF I OFFENDED ANYONE I APOLOGIZE.

Honey,no offense taken
You wrote your thoughts and even if they came from a dark place,we have all been there!

So no more apologies
God Bless
Elizabeth

I have known ladies at both ends of the spectrum. Those who seemed to have no symptoms whatsoever (who knows if they really had nothing or were just putting up a good front) and those who make what I have look trivial. So I would say if someone is having no symptoms, leave them be. No need to explain what could be lurking around the corner. For those who clearly are having issues, I think I would mention it - have you ever thought that you might be starting menopause...... Could be a great relief to someone who just thinks she is loosing her marbles.

I agree, I actually feel a little bit more in control and better knowing that I am not going crazy. Of course the doctors all put me down the crazy road but after discovering this site and doing a little more reading and research I realize that this is hormones which makes me feel a tad bit better.

Lady,

I don't think anybody is offended, I am certainly not. If a woman can get thru this monster painlessly, I say HURRAH! I wish I was one of them. I didn't find this site until I was 6 months into menopause, and I think of all the years I was having peri symptoms and thinking I was dying from some horrid disease. I muddled thru it, tried to keep on living. It got harder and harder to do. I had no idea peri and menopause could cause the issues I suffered with. I wish I had known.

As someone who has always had hormonal problems, I never thought about menopause and didnt really talk about it until after my dear daughter was born and my mother told me that is what was wrong with me! Of course, I too though I was too young for that and so did the doctors! I wish I had known something prior to, I wish shehad shared that with me. Would it have changed things? Probably not! I want my dd and sisters to know and be prepared so that they can know that there is help out there and that there is no need to suffer if they don't have to...

For those who are never touched by it or who can do herbs and be alright, they are truely blessed! I was watching a movie today and the song I hope you dance came on....and the lyrics are just beautiful... To anyone experiencing tough symptoms, including my FAMILY....I HOPE YOU DANCE!!!!



I hope you never lose your sense of wonder,
You get your fill to eat but always keep that hunger,
May you never take one single breath for granted,
GOD forbid love ever leave you empty handed,
I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean,
Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens,
Promise me that you'll give faith a fighting chance,
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance.

I hope you dance....I hope you dance.

I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance,
Never settle for the path of least resistance
Livin' might mean takin' chances but they're worth takin',
Lovin' might be a mistake but it's worth makin',
Don't let some hell bent heart leave you bitter,
When you come close to sellin' out reconsider,
Give the heavens above more than just a passing glance,
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance.

I hope you dance....I hope you dance.
I hope you dance....I hope you dance.
(Time is a wheel in constant motion always rolling us along,
Tell me who wants to look back on their years and wonder where those years have gone.)

I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean,
Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens,
Promise me that you'll give faith a fighting chance,
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance.

Dance....I hope you dance.
I hope you dance....I hope you dance.
I hope you dance....I hope you dance..
(Time is a wheel in constant motion always rolling us along
Tell me who wants to look back on their years and wonder where those years have gone)






TJ

I know a woman that always made me feel like i was crazy when i would talk about how i was feeling and all the symptoms i was experiencing....she made me feel that way by bragging that she was having no problems with meno what-so-ever....acted like it was all easy sailing....
This past year she finally confessed the truth......that she actually had a nervous breakdown during peri....
I don't understand why she put on an act.....she and i could have really helped each other....
so ladybugs,please don't apologize for being open and honest with what you're feeling or going through.....it's what we need.I truly appreciate it when people have the guts to be open and honest because it really helps me....

p.s.:this may sound weird....but after i typed the word "need",i had to look it up on a dictionary site to make sure it's a real word...do any of you have that happen?it's like all of a sudden words don't look or sound right....sometimes it makes me feel crazy...(which by the way,i would never say that to anyone here in real life,so i am really thankful for Power surge)

Yes I've done that many times before...couldn't remember how to spell "I"....today I couldn't remember how to make tuna salad...had to look it up!


TJ

Oh I too have had sudden blanks when trying to spell a word!! And it is usually stupidly easy words...like "the"!!!!

It is kinda funny you forgot how to spell "I"!! But could mix it up with "eye" or "aye"!! haha!!!

It took me days to get over that one !!! When my dd was younger and I was on all of the psych meds, I couldn't help her with her homework because I would get her confused. I would be teaching her something totally different from the way she had learned it in school...she became very frustrated with me and didn't want my help!

TJ