Not a very good morning as you can guess. I need a touch of love.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vr3x_RRJdd4

luv ya pooks

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Big, giant hugs to you, my friend!

Can you hold while I go SCREAM for a while?

Thanks! That's better now! hehehe

(((Ladybugs)))

I'm saying a prayer for you right now.

Bella

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)))))))))))))))))) - Here's a huge hug from me too!

Maybe your Hubby will get an even better job now & just show'em!

That is so WONDERFUL pooks!!!! Everyone needs a daily hug. I felt the love just watching that guy giving out free hugs. : )

Oh my I cried ( and flashed)when I watched that video and I can't remember the last time I cried Thank you!!

Bigs hugs from Indiana (((((((( Ladybugs )))))))))

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yes that always makes me weep and flash too! crying can be as good as the big "O" for me these days when we are all wound so tight. I especially love the first hug the older woman gives him and how she touches his face - so sweet

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(((((((((((((((((((ladybug)))))))))))))))))))))!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

keeping you & your husband in my thoughts & prayers.

xo,
ellen

that is one of my fav videos & hadn't seen it in a while. & i do start crying right at that face touch point. thanks, pook.

btw - big "O"? wow, i'm happy for little ones these days...

xo,ep

Ladybugs,
Sending a BIG HUG to you....((((((((((Ladybugs))))))!
Know that my thoughts and prayers are with you today!

HUGS,
Di

Ladybugs - of course you can have some hugs. It is hard these to persevere in spite of the many hurdles that come our way. I am hoping that with the support here that maybe you can find the courage to do so. My life is/can be hard too but I try not to let it harden my spirit. Hang in there.

Try not to get too angry about the situation. Anger is like a fisherman's hook, we mustn't get caught by it (Dalai Lama)


Sincerely,
Suzanne
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Not one hug, but a million for you!

Lets have a great big
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Jonie

Awwww! Thank you all soooo much! I really DO feel the love! I am trying to keep my spirits up and look forward. I continue to thank God for giving me such a good job and the means to support so it's not a total loss, it's just really hard looking at my husband and seeing such pain and disapointment ya know?

Awsome video!!!!!!!!!!!!!

GROUP HUG FOR LADYBUGS (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Big Hugs to you from southern Indiana:) (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
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Kim

Ladybugs - Perhaps your Hubby could then set himself up as a DIY/ handyman business or something. (I don't know his skills or training but it sounds like he might be better off becoming his own boss)

((((infinity hugs))))

SCREAMING helps too, ladybugs. I do all my screaming in silence, but it works for me!

bev xoxoxox

(((((Ladybugs)))))))

A (((hug))) from me too.

A huge hug from me Ladybugs. (((((((((((((((((((((((Ladybugs)))))))))))))))))))))))

I'm so sorry Ladybugs. Maybe there's something BETTER waiting for him....we just can't see the big picture at this time.

Wrapping my arms around you and giving you a big hug

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You're going through so much right now and I will keep you in my prayers.

Hugs,
Karen

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TJ

A million thanks girls. I really needed this today. It makes me feel so much better. Ken's kinda been in a shell today so I am letting him be for now. He is an automotive tech by degree but is no longer able to do that since the car accident so we'll have to see what comes of all this. He's trying to be upbeat about this though. I of course am mad as all heck but what are ya gonna do? I keep thinking if I just beat my head against the wall it will come to me but it never happens. thanks again girls for all the love!

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(((((((((HUGGERS, BEAUTIFUL LADYBUGS!))))))))))))))))

May tomorrow be a MUCH better day.

Luv ya,
JJ

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FEEL BETTER!

Donna

Big SMOOCHES to all of you who offered me love just when I needed it most! Thank YOU!

things will get better..i have been through this with my husband..i cried many days wondering how we would get through yet another problem..... i am a survivor..2007 summer we were dealing with my issues...i found out i had cancer....its in remission now...but we got through that and now his job loss is just another obstacle in the path of life....my husband was terminated and unable to draw unemployment(we didnt fight it) ..(who knows what they used as an excuse to fire him) he turned in someone that was drunk on the job.(they claimed the person was not drunk--and my husband insisted they were--so they called my husband the next morning at home and told him he was terminated) .the small company he worked for was trying to find anything to get rid of all the long time higher paid employees...they are now a very small company with about 11 employees..originally thye had about 50 employees...to get to the moral of the story...i was very much like you..scared and unsure how we would get by and how was my husband going to deal with such disappointment..it takes GOD's help..but my husband lost his job july 2 and didnt find one until nov 3rd..and it is part-time now..but it pays the bills...hopefully with a lot of prayers it will be full-time soon!
he loves the job and says it the best job he ever had! Thank GOD for a better job! Better things are coming your way!!lots of prayers for you and your husband! i truly understand your need for a hug!

BIG HUGS COMING ATCHA~!

And more hugs,
Sue

I guess when we need to hear some encouraging words, we can't always rely on people. You never know how they are going to react. I know that everyone is entitled to their opinion and sometimes they don't say what we want to hear. But if a person seems depressed or is troubled about something and they confide in me, I try to be supportive of them and even if I don't really understand the problem, I at least offer some kind words.

I've become estranged from my daughter, who's in her late thirties now, thanks to my mother who took her away from me decades ago. I don't want to discuss it--it's a huge mess that has gone on for years and I've done everything I can to mend it. Suffice it to say that there is certainly no easy answer. My heart is truly broken and certainly I do not want the situation that seems to exist. I have three granddaughters and have not seen any of them. I probably won't ever see them, and I've had to just move on and stop letting this thing ruin my life. I have a lot to be thankful for; I have two dogs I love so much and they have truly renewed my inner spirit and at times they have given me a reason to go on. I have a wonderful husband and he is my family. We enjoy life and we do things that are fun. I'm working and thank goodness have not lost my job nor my home. I have friends and though I don't discuss my daughter and those problems very much, my friends are good to be with and I'm glad I have them.

Did any of you ever reach out to someone, hoping for some insights that will help you, and instead they seem to judge you badly? I once did talk about the problems with my daughter to the dental hygienist, of all people. My daughter goes to the same dentist and I guess that's how the subject got brought up; I asked her if she'd seen my daughter come in for an appointment, and so forth. That led to me discussing the problems though I really prefer not to. Well, I had another appointment today, about a year after I talked to her initially. I did not bring up the situation with my daughter this time, and while she was doing my teeth she suddenly remarked, "I saw your daughter and two of your granddaughters the other day when they came in. They are so sweet and are getting big."

I felt like I'd been kicked in the stomach; no warning about this at all, and I remembered how I'd confided in her a long time ago, so I have no one to blame but myself for it being brought up now. But it still hurt, and I looked right in her eyes and said, "It kills me, Karen." She went on to say that her aunt had two kids and when the kids reached age 18, she wanted nothing more to do with them. She said, "Her daughter calls her but my aunt just slams her verbally and hangs up. I don't know what happened, but it's really too bad."

So therein was my judgment, right there. The hygienist obviously thinks I must do something like this to my daughter, especially given how sweet my granddaughters are. She thinks I'm the ogre grandmother and I have disowned my daughter, and so forth.

People just don't understand some things like this, and that's why I don't discuss it anymore. I've talked to people in the past and they say impatiently, "How can you let it go on? Don't you want to see your grandkids? Why don't you call your daughter?"

As if it all could just be solved so easily, as if I have not done all of these things over and over again; done anything and everything I can think of, but I can't kidnap people or force them or stalk them. This problem is huge and cannot be solved even by the counselors I've seen. After I do not know how many tears I cried, or how many nights I lay awake wracking my brain for an answer, the only way to keep my sanity is move on, live my life, and be thankful for the blessings I do have.

I realized today that I should never have talked to her about it in the first place. Sometimes when we hope that people will offer a comforting word, they say something sharp or cruel, and we end up being more upset than if we'd kept our mouth shut. She has kids; you'd think she'd be able to envision how it must hurt me not to see my grandkids, and at least not bring it up suddenly like that. But again, I started the whole thing a year ago by discussing it, so I have no one to blame but myself, and I shall take good care never to speak about it to anyone again unless I am ready for all kinds of reactions.

CSugarGrove, I am sending support and comfort to you. We have never met but that really doesn't matter, does it! I understand only too well the twisted, hurtful things that can happen in some families. For someone to say, "How can you let it go on?" They have NOT walked in your shoes and would have NO comprehension of the pain involved in what you have been going through.

I come from a dysfunctional family where certain individuals, including my one living sister and a niece who is the daughter of my deceased sister, decided to just "cut" me off for no reason that I can ascertain. My sister's behavior has been ongoing for 35 years now. The thing with my non-talking niece and my mother sounds very similiar to your situation. My niece calls my mother, her mother, and turned on my sister before she died. My mother always encouraged the behavior. I have not seen my niece since before my sister died. I have tried to re-connect with her. In regards to my sister not talking to me, she comes and goes, in and out of my life. When someone gets married or dies, she charges back in and can't imagine why I'm not all hearts and flowers to have her "back" She came back after an absence of five years, two years ago, when an uncle died. About 6 months ago, after e mailing, calling me, visiting and us having a great time together for a year and a half, she checked out again. She won't answer my phone calls nor my e mails. This happened overnight for no apparent reason!!

I have decided, like you, to disengage and go forward. I can't force my niece nor my sister to contact me. One thing I WILL do differently, the next time my sister reappears, is not be all gushy, accepting and loving. I wrote to her and told her that her behavior towards me is unwarranted and that I am ticked-off and tired of it!!

SugarGrove, I am so sorry you are having to go through this painful stuff. (((((((((( CSugarGrove))))))))))

CG

Careergirl, thank you. It means so much to me that you took time to respond. I'm so sorry about the situation with your niece and certainly with your sister. I always wanted a sister and never had one, so if this had happened to me with my sister, it would be very hurtful. How frustrating for you, yet it seems to me that you have chosen the right path, which is to disengage and get busy living your own life. I hope you got some rudimentary comfort from writing to her, though. I've done the same thing, written letters, taking time to get them worded just right and so forth, but they just get ignored and so I have realized that it is another waste of my time. I'm so thankful that you can understand about walking in my shoes and the pain involved. People are so flippant and think it must be my fault and it just takes a simple phone call to mend everything. Some day I hope your sister comes to her senses, but I wouldn't blame you one bit for no longer being receptive after the way you've been treated. Since I've gotten older, I have a very clear standard for how I will accept being treated by anyone, and most certainly by family members. I used to let people walk on me, but not anymore. Good for you, that you realize all of this is wasting your precious life and there are so many good things and good times out there. We can go on despite having dysfunctional families. Thank you again for your kind post.

Sweet SugarGrove
My heart aches for you.I really nderstand how some very intense situations cannot be fixed as things have become so entrenched.I say that because I feel I live a lie just staying with my husband.And like you I will never confide in anyone again.People can be so thoughtless.

Don't blame yourself because we all need to confide in people and naturally we assume mature women would act in a mature way but sadly this is not the case.No-one but the person living the story can know the dynamics.For me the most supportive friend was the one who always listened,never judged and kept her mouth shut.

I wish you all health and happiness.
Yes you have many blessings in your life.

Warmest Wishes and
A Big Hug
Elizabeth

CSugarGrove....

I'm here to give you....

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