Ok we all experience anger, rage and being just plain pissed off ----what is your vent??? Do you go somewhere????
Do you do something????How do you avoid this before it happens????

Hi Anna,

I hate feeling the rage! I think it's the worst part of the hormonal attacks. I had a super hard time with it a couple years ago. I would start by feeling super irritated with someone, it would be like nails on a chalk board. At times it was directed at my husband, over things that just never seemed to be resolved in our relationship. At any rate, I would have to get away from the situation to get into a calming mode. Some days I just drove and listened to music or walked by myself to calm down and think straight.

It definately lasted for a few months in my case and then it did ease up. I still get super irritated with certain things, but nothing like that period of time, so I think it was an extreme hormonal time. Bubble baths were great also to relax, along with a glass of wine.

It may also help to talk with a good friend. Venting is good, it gets it out before you explode.

Juliann

I usually come here and vent...

Then I offend someone, here. Usually a "long-timer" that's been on this website forever and finds me offensive.

I get my fanny wacked and my hands slapped.

Sometimes my posts are deleted completely...

Then, I go back to work and finish what I'm doing.

So far...this has worked and gives hubby the needed break...

Krissy,
You are too funny and always make me laugh.

Anna I used to be a 'door slammer" and made my anger KNOWN....


Now I usually stay quiet and plot my revenge

oh Anna i hear ya on the anger rage which i had a couple days ago, its been awhile for me but i felt de ja vu when this happened to me. Years ago When i had bad anger and what i did then when i was angry i am ashamed of, So now that i am on meds for this sorta thing i walk away from situation i go outside and cool off instead of putting my fist through a glass window.Or i just go to my room and ge ton laptop and talk to my friends hear on ps or my other sites which helps alot. I am so glad i am not like i was or i would be in a heap of trouble. I wish you the best if you are having some anger best thing to do is walk away or talk to a good friend. hugs Terry

Feeling anger is not such a negative thing doing peri. I find if I have the energy to feel hopping mad I feel better. It can empower me to get things done!
Like getting the stupid gas company to reimburse me for an overcharge!

Channeling it into something positive is the hard part.

Brisk long walk, works like a charm. How to avoid, I take Xanax.

Hi - well I try not to type...hee hee. I can't see clearly, think clearly and write clearly. I wish that there was a spell check on this site. lol

hey Anna,

when I am a raging mess, I usually clean!! Years ago I got really angry at my husband of the time, and left the house in a rage. I had no where to go really, and didn't want him to find me and it was late....so I went to work and cleaned up the coffee room & the back bathroom. My boss thought it was great, and said he hoped I got angry more often!!

I also will clean my own house, if I haven't been driven out of it by rage. I hope you aren't raging.....

Wow, what a thread. Thank you for starting it Anna and thank you all for your honesty. It helps me feel not so alone. I mostly yell when I get in a rage but I have done a few things over the past year or so that has really caued me terrible shame. I didn't hurt anyone..just myself and not intentionally either. I try and leave the situation now....get out of the house, call a friend, clean if I'm by myself or cry.

I have to learn to do something. Just before xmas my fiance and I got into a little tif over wrapping presents. I hate wrapping, he loves it. I don't even remember what started the tif, but once it took off, I got mad and stormed to my room, slammed the door. He's the type who will not fight back. Thinks it's safer that way. Well the more I stayed in my room, the angrier I got, so I opened the door and threw a pair of scissors down the hallway and they landed on the kitchen table. I had to show just how angry I was. Didn't phase him.

Not proud whatsoever of this behavior. Kinda scares me. I always try to keep lines of communication open and let him know how I'm feeling. Some days he gets it; other days he doesn't. I do have to find an outlet for the days he doesn't. I am so thankful that I didn't hurt him with those scissors.

There are days I too feel like putting my fist through a window, but then remember I would have to pay to have it fixed, so I don't!!! Well that's not the only reason......

At the beginning I would let EVERYBODY know I was angry. Now I am a bit more reserved about it. I go for a drive to the river or if it's really bad will hibernate in my bedroom until it passes.

I understand exactly how you feel.I get so angry sometimes I could scream. Sadly, alot of mine is vented on my poor hubby. Everything he does makes me angry. I have learned I just have to get some ME TIME. We live in a small town, where there is a movie theater. I go sometimes when I am having a bad day, all by myself, get a large popcorn, and pop, and just chill out at the theater. I pick out the movie I want to see, and just enjoy. Sounds corny, buy it is my time to just sit and be alone for a while to get my head on straight. But, the anger seems to be part of this whole process and we just have to learn to deal with it the best we can. Good luck to ya!!!!

This is exactly what I do...take a drive or hibernate... I usually shut my bedroom door and my dd and ex know to leave me alone....When I'm feeling beter I come out and give my dd a hug as an apology... It's frustrating...very, very frustrating because usually I'm crying at the same time!

TJ

Thanks for all your input ladies. I was just having a really bad day. They don't happen too often anymore-I guess thats a blessing there in itself. Maybe find a hole to climb in and all the BS will be better later
Once again, thank you to all of you for taking the time to post to this thread. I did start it in haste but perhaps it is well needed. I hope that it does not create havoc as sometimes posts do. My intention was merely personal.
Have a good day.

Anna:

I hate the rage, ugh!!! It seems like I do it more often than I like. Sometimes I cant stand to be in my house a moment longer and either go out for a little walk or get in my car and drive to the grocery store just looking around. Other times if I cannot physically leave, I close and lock my bedroom door until the feeling passes.

Hugs to everyone,
Jeaninne

Actually there was a time where I would actually explode and have a temper tantrum. These days, any kind of stress that threatens my emotional underpinnings can send me spiraling into a panic attack. This "new" response to emotionally charged stimuli is just weird to me. I used to THRIVE on rage, anger, passion, etc! Now, I avoid, avoid, avoid. I turned into a weiner from menopause