Bear with me one more time and then I am done. I feel like so many of you have offered such good advice over these last few months concerning issues between my husband and me. Really valuable advice. Over the last couple of years there has been serious issues develop concerning my husband and how we delt with them was at best dicey. I being in meno kinda hit a wall and would either shut down or give up and want to leave. You girls helped me to keep from doing just that and I can't thank you enough. Ok I will get to the point. Ken went into a treatment facility for alcoholism a bit over a year ago. Worked for a couple of months after then back slowly to like before (this has been a battle since day one for 18 years but I either love him or I'm stupid and I'm sure there are both views here!)...anyways, (for the record when he ISN"T drinking his is the nicest guy in the world!) two days ago I said this is the end. I love you but we must do something drastic and I meant drastic. We need to find a way to break this cycle for once and all. SO, we went to our doc and we talked and we talked and we talked some more. The solution? A two year commitment from Ken to use ANTABUSE daily (that I administer). I don't know if any of you know what this is but if he consumes alcohol he becomes VIOLENTLY ILL. Hospitalized VIOLENTLY ILL. We know the risks but my husband feels this is destroying his life and wants to stop but can't. As soon as we came to this conclusion....I relaxed. I felt calm. I felt RIGHT about the whole situation. Most of all??? I looked at my husband and felt I could maybe just maybe actually learn to love him again. Last night we walked and talked, held hands and both looked at each other with such hope in our eyes. Oh by the way the interview went GREAT!!! They will let him know next Wed who they hire! Thank you for your supportive prayers!

Ladybugs -

I'm just wondering - does your husband go to AA meetings? I hear these meetings are very successful -

Do you know the success stats on antibuse? Have you researched it? I don't believe we all fall into statistics, but I do think they are a guideline.

Ladybugs

I am so glad his interview went well! It is wonderful that you have found hope to help you both through his addiction.

I will keep you and your husband in my prayers.

(((HUGS)))

Bella

Hi Ladybugs,

I think the antibuse is a great idea. When my husband and I first married, he had a major problem with alcohol and he was put into treatment for 6 weeks and followed up with a year on antibuse, it did work for him. I think you should have a routine and make sure that he take's it daily, he won't be able to EVEN think of drinking, cause he will know that he will get sick. Putting the thought of drinking out of the way, he can focus on life w/o it.

I would suggest some sort of additional reinforcement such as AA or counseling. I wish you the best.

Juliann

Yes, AA is in place. I have done the research and it states an 85 % success rate if taken for two consecutive years. He does feel it will take the pressure off having to fight not drinking all day and will let him focus on his actual "life". He has even more to celebrate. They called today and he got the job!!!!

Congratulations ladybugs!! I wish you the best!

Congratulations to your husband for getting the job and getting into recovery. I have been sober for 25 year+ now and it has worked for me a day at a time. Just a suggestion, perhaps you should look into going to alanon. It's a wonderful for support.

Hugs,
Karen

Congratulations to your family Ladybugs, You have had many blessings this week. I will continue to pray for you.

CONGRATULATIONS!