I found this site and was glad to see It's just not me going crazy. LOL I hope. I am 36 married no children . EVERYTHING lately bothers me. My main issue is rude people. I travel 1 1/2 hr to work everyday. At 6am the last thing I want to hear is morons YELLING on cell phones. Everyday home and back . They don't even talk there screaming It takes everything in me to stay calm because I literally want to get up and ram there phones down there throats. And don't tell me to ask nicely for them to quiet down I live in NY they will tell you go to hell. Than I really want to strangle them . I have tried listening to my Ipod and some lady had the nerve to tell me to turn it down. So I said to her"Are you done with your cell phone ? Like I want to listen to you calling CVS to see if your Yeast Infection medicine was filled. The things they talk about ughhh.
I love my job and my husband but it seems everyday I come home miserable and I have to stay by myself in the Den for an hour until I calm down. Do I need a shrink, prozac, shock therapy? I am embarassed to ask my M.D. for something to calm me down Im afraid he will call a paddy wagon for me . The only medication I take is Desogen birth control. I would be happy for any advice.

Thank you

Dear 'IrishNy'

Have never been to New York but from what I have seen and heard the pace is fast!It sounds like you are dealing with a lot of stress which can cause the irritability and consequent high stress you describe.Do you have any time for Meditation,Yoga or swimming.These exercises are very calming.I know this from experience

However,have you considered the idea that you might have early onset of Peri Menopause?I was Menopausal at 39 so it is not unheard of.What about a frank talk with your Doctor with perhaps a full physical including Thyroid levels and then onto Gyn. to see where your Hormonal levels are. There is nothing to be embarassed about,my friend.

I remember still the great sensitivity to noise and screaming that i I experienced had when I started this journey.I could hardly bear the sound of the television.

Please keep posting and look after yourself.Constant stress can lead to depression so you need to seek help.

Warm Wishes
Elizabeth

Dear Irish:

I have been in peri for almost 10 years and have noticed the rage, sensitivity to noise and light mostly in the last year. It is horrible sometimes. I was a McDonald's one day and this kid in front of me in this little bitty car, he cranked his stereo so loud that I could not order at the drive thru window because she could not hear me. I was so upset that I burst into tears and started screaming with my ears covered. If I could have gotten my hands on that boy, I would have choked him to death.

So you are not alone!!!! I agree with Elizabeth, have a frank discussion with your doc and see if there is anything that you can take or do to help calm yourself before getting into these situations.

Hugs to you,
Jeaninne

yes.ny can do it to anyone,anywhere--meno or not.seek a quiet corner everyday.try yoga.i found yoga breathing to be great,try to get the dvd 'yoga for dummies'---makes you feel a bit more calm.i know what you are talking about,but by that time i was post meno--still happens,so try to do something.celexa for a short time helped so much.

Thank you Ladies so much I never thought I could be pre- menopause . I am due for a checkup soon I will ask my GYN. Im kind of embarassed to ask but besides everything else that bothers me I am finding that I have no sex drive lately I guess I just feel blah. Could it be pre- menapause?

Thank you all

New here, hope I'm doing this right...

Maybe you should splurge on one of those pairs of earphones that block out all background noise?

If I were in your position, I would be glaring so hard at people my face would be permanently frozen into a scowl. Oh, wait, it already is. Sigh.

If it's any consolation, this morning I whined so much about how fast the house gets dirty that my DH (who is a lovely man) vacuumed the entire downstairs...and now all I can focus on is that he just LEFT THE FREAKING VACUUM CLEANER IN THE MIDDLE OF THE FLOOR WHEN HE FINISHED and I want to SNARL AT HIM.

Perimenopause. It's not for sissies.

Hi IrishNY,

As Elizabeth said you may be going through Prei menopause. I started to go through Prei when I was in my late 30 like Elizabeth as well.

I remember a few months ago that any sound started to bother me. The television was up loud and the noise sounded so loud in my ears that I left the room. Children crying I find loud too.

I have noticed here that when people are on their cell phones that they seem to yell into them too. As you said you dont need to know what they are saying and with the new phones that are comming out they are getting better and better so Im sure they dont need to yell into them.

Oh isnt Prei and Meno so much fun?

Dont be embrassed to chat to your Doctor about whats bothering you as they are there to help.

Welcome to Power-Surge. Its a great place to find the answers to your questions as there are some wonderful ladies here that are only too happy to help.

Come back often to let us know how your getting on.

Take care from Deb

Hi Downeast,
Welcome to Power-Surge.
I love your post. I kniw what you mean when you say your DH left the vacuum cleaner out as when my Hubby has crackers from the panrty he will leave the empty packet on the bence grrrrrr. I just want to give him a swift kick up the butt. lol.

Take care from Deb

Been there, still there, wish I wasn't...lol...

Though have you considered that perhaps your BC pills are what is causing the upheaval? I remember being about your age and always being incredibly irritated and plain pissed off. Around that time I got pregnant and ended up having my tubes tied, so of course BC pills became unnecessary (I had been on them for years and years and always had mood swings) in my case, once off of them, the change in my moods was amazing. Not saying to get off BC but maybe changing to a different brand might make a difference. Just something to think about, but, not discounting peri as the culprit either. It is a roller coaster ride and you gotta find a way to laugh at yourself even as you look outside yourself and just see a crazy screaming lunatic, lol

I could be wrong but IF you are going through perimenopause (I started at 32 initially so don't be fooled into thinking your too young!) and still taking birth control...maybe it's knocking your hormone levels off. I would ask for a blood test to see where your hormones are sitting numbers wise. Last thing...NEVER ever ever, be embarrassed to talk to your doctor about this. It is all normal and you will end up getting very personal with your doc so if you are not comfy with the one you have find another and FAST!

Yes this is part of it too. Mostly diminishing testosterone. Mention it to your doctor too.

Dear Irish,

I lived in New York myself when I first moved here from Ireland. I hated it. The whole "ideal" of New York is nice from far far away, but up close, it just wasn't for me. I found that I spent a lot of my time yelling at others either driving, on the street, in the cab, etc. I'm the first one to say I have a horrible Irish temper, but I can also say that my environment made it worse. I still live in a big city and cannot say from a temperment standpoint it's much better than New York but here the Texans here can curse you out wholesale and make you feel as if they've just praised you. I suppose it's a gift. Personally I think that at 36 years-old you could most definitely be having the onset of peri. My mum began at the same age. The doctor told her she was nuts and for years she acted like it too. Finally when she had a hysterectomy at 45 she was started on horomones, and suddenly she became the mum we all knew and loved and had missed terribly. I would have some tests run just to rule that out.