Hi all my lovely peri sisters,I need your support.I just feel so rotten right now,and I feel like it is my fault.I have not been walking every day like I should,have been eating way too much,and today we took the kids to a pizza buffet and I ate way too much.Well,now I am suffering.I am anxious,shaky,my heart is racing,and I just want to cry.I know I should take better care ofmyself,but it is so hard sometimes.Lately I am hungry all the time,and part of me believes it is emotional.Can salty foods make you feel bad like this"?Does anyone else feel like this if they overindulge?I hate feeling like this,it reminds me of the early days of horrible health anxiety.Just a few minutes ago I was wondering,"do I have diabetes?"What if something is really wrong with me?I hate those kind of thoughts.I am kicking my own butt here,cause anytime I don't exercise,and don't eat right I start to feel bad,then after a while of feeling good,I fall of the proverbial wagon and start missing the walks,and eating junk again.I don't htink I even took my vitamins last night.Has anyone went through this?I just want to scream,I have been praying and that always helps,just hope some of you lovely ladies will have a sympathetic shoulder for me.Any similar stories,any foods that make you feel awful,but that you just have to eat?Love you all---GODbless

Lady E!!!!!

Oh my gosh....take it easy on yourself my dear! We ALL ( at least I do ) the same things!...i know I should exercise more...I used to do it EVERY day and I felt better for it...but I am TIRED now some days and I just can't do it....I feel like the REST is more important...maybe I am wrong but I just can't bring my self to get up and out some days...so be it!...and yes....oh yes....I am lactose intolerant....but on occasion...I get out the ice cream and just can't stop! Oh yes....I "pay" the next day....but I have actually been able to talk myself thru it..and remember the last time I did not die or hurt my self permanently....just made myself have a miserable day! I have asked myself over and over again in the last few years what it is that made me feel I had to perfect? And more importantly recoginzed that if I am not perfect....that does not make me weak or inferior....because after 53 years....I have not once me a perfect person....so why do I expect more of myself?
When I was in the worst of peri I gained a lot of weight and WAS hungry all the time...I truly believe it is nature's 'way" of protecting us from the worst! Estrogen is stored in fat cells and if our hormones are declining our bodies are trying to figure out a way to compensate. So, I guess what I am saying is listen to your body and trust it....

If you are worried about a specific symptom, there is no shame in getting it checked out! If the doc's look at you like a madwoman (and chances are that they might) chalk it up to another clueless medical professional!

My guess ( and once again a guess...so get checked out if you still worry ) is that all of these changes are scaring you and your anxiety is causing the shakes, heart racing, etc...try to relax and accept the new and imperfect you for a while...it ends.....I promise!
PM me anytime...or get on chat...there are a bazillion ladies there waiting to help!

Dear Lady E,

Crazy has already put everything so beautifully I don't have much to add. Except my own empathy and encouragement.

She is so right; no one is perfect and we expect ourselves to be what we would never expect from others.

I wrote on another thread that these days I would eat my shoes if they had mayo on them. And last night, I ate vanilla yogurt with spicey cabbage salad. Now if that is not hormonal, I don't know what is. I am hungry all the time, I eat every hour like a newborn, and I have gained 20 pounds in the last 6 months. I myself am a terrible emotional eater, but I am gradually getting it under control with a program of CBT--please PM me if you would like to know more about it.

As for exercise, there is something in me right now that absolutely refuses to exercise. I am too tired, too tentative, too much still recovering from a trauma.

CA is so right. You have to give yourself the kind of support you would give to others. And I am sure that would be considerable. Hang in. The bad days do not cancel out the good ones. It will get better.

All best,
Marcy

Some days I do everything "wrong" too! But, let's just wipe the slate clean, tomorrow is another day and we can try again...its ok, its ok, it's really OK! Love and kisses, you will be ok...bumbling along with the rest of us...! Joan

Lady E - sending you mountains of hugs -

please be kind to yourself - none of us is perfect and if being a perfect human is all about what you've eaten and whether you've exercised that day - then what a horrible world it would be. You seem to me to be loving, thougtful, spiritual and kind. I'm sure you were all those things yesterday and those are the beautiful things about you.

I do feel that if I eat to many refined carbohydrtes I pay a price with how I am feeling - but sometimes (often) I do it anyway for some pleasure, which we so deserve. A bowl of spaghetti and a glass of red wine - hooray and tomorrow be damned.

E - your symtoms could be because of some hormone balance/imbalance shift.

Please be kind to yourself - no blaming the victim!!!!!!!!!!!!

xoxoxoxoxo Pooks

Hi Lady E,

I have felt that way, too, even though I very rarely overeat and I do exercise every day. I know when we've gone out to a buffet restaurant and I ate more than I usually would have, my heart would beat fast and hard afterwards for a while. I know how it feels and I really don't like to feel that way.

I hope you'fe feeling better today and that things are back to normal for you. I will say a prayer for you, too.

I'm hoping you have a great Sunday!
God bless you bunches,
Deb

Lady E,

I am so glad you shared this because I did the exact same thing last tonight. I really don't think I ate way too much, (I had mostly salad) but I did have soda, which I NEVER do. It just happened that it was included with the meal, we were pressed for time and I couldn't find the water spigot anywhere, so, I had the soda.

When we left the restaurant to go shopping, I had horrible anxiety, I couldnt breath and I just needed to go home. I hadn't felt that bad in a very long time. On top of that I noticed swelling in my feet and ankles earlier in the day and into the night.

I have been exercising, but seeing no results, so I began to worry that with the water retention and the shortness of breath on top of that................well, you can only imagine the fear that came over me.

Of course, I had to do that which is forbidden and I googled these symptoms.

Sounds like you are obsessing, just like I do sometimes. It's such a horrible way to feel, but it seems to me to be a part of the ebb and flow of this time of our lives, just like everything else we are experiencing.

It always helps me to know that I am not the only one feeling this way, otherwise I would literally lose my mind.

Hang in there,

tidal

Thanks and hugs to all the wonderful women who replied,I do feel better today,just a bit of a "bad day hangover"and sluggish.I hope we all have a wonderful Sunday,GODbless.

Hi Super Surgette - So glad to hear you're feeling better. We are our own worse enemies aren't we. It's okay to spluge once in a while and not beat ourselves up about it. Plus all the anxiety and cravings are all part of menopause. have a great week.
Bobbi -

LadyE: You are not crazy; this happens to me all the tiime! I'll be doing so well with eating the right things, then I'll go nuts and eat too much and I'm literally sick to death for 2 days. I'll be bloated, nauseous, racing heart beat, feeling like I'm going to die! And all from food!

This all started with menopause. Nothing makes me sicker than overeating, or eating the wrong food, or heaven help me, the both combined. Sometimes I simply cannot believe how sick I can get just from consuming the wrong stuff, but I swear it happens...

Isn't getting older fun?