No problem... I sure understand the discouragement. :( Did you read about my surgery on those message boards? I also gave a website address where there are pictures of what my doctor removed, in case you might be interested... a fibroid and several (4)polyps...one was so huge it filled most of my uterus.
You are right, there are several women who have posted here with similar kinds of problems, and you can read about their procedures and how things have turned out well, for the most part. I think the worst part of it is the fear of the unknown, but I can tell you that I would do it all over again if I had to, for the relief, both physically and emotionally, it has given me. Like me, you can learn alot here, both from all the other sections at Power Surge and from other women here who have been in similar situations. And, you can also get sincere support. :)
Things have changed drastically in this area, and for the better. In my case, what I had done was a vaginal operative hysteroscopy/myomectomy, so there was no incision. For me, there was also no pain, and a one day recovery time. The procedure took about 45 minutes, and I was on my way home, with no side effects within an hour and a half. I felt so good, I was back here posting the same day! The only thing I felt at all was a little fluttering in my abdomen for a couple of days and I had some spotting for maybe 3 days. Then, my next period after that was the first normal one I had in years! And, all the junk that got taken out was benign...which was one of my fears that scared me to the point that I didn't want to have the procedure done initially.
I don't know if the procedure would necessarily be the same for you, but I do know that we can get help these days without necessarily having to go through major surgery and a 6 week recovery period. I know that, for me, mine was very much worth it, and any resemblence of pain I may have felt didn't even come close to the horrific cramps I suffered through each and every month for 10 days at a time. I just went through a normal period, with very minimal cramping, and I am so glad I found my excellent doctor and she was able to get through to me how badly I needed that done.
I would like to help give you some hope, which is why I posted to you to begin with...so many here gave it to me when I needed it. :)
I am not understanding why a vaginal sort of procedure has not been offered as an option? With a vaginal procedure, there are no incisions to become infected or abcessed, so I am wondering if that wouldn't be a better option? And, again, procedures of the past are just that...I am very pleasantly surprised at the medical advances in this area.
From what you have written, it seems like you have yet to find an enlightened doctor who will listen to you and try to work with you, and, there are some out there. You just have to look to find them. One suggestion I am thinking about is to contact Pete Heuseman, of College Pharmacy... he can give you some information on natural progesterone, as well as to give you the names of some doctors in your area who work with him, understand meno, and are not the type of doctors you have been experiencing. I get my estrogen and progesterone from him, my excellent doctor is one he recommended to me, and I am feeling wonderful these days after nearly 5 yrs of feeling badly and getting nowhere with the doctors I was seeing. You can get details about him and College Pharmacy here at Power Surge, read the transcripts from his guest chats here, and get his email address and 800 phone number. He has helped many, many women here besides myself.
I think you can get alot of truthful information here at Power Surge and also from Pete. Check it out. :)