Hi guys. Well those of you who know me have known for awhile that my husband lost his job this past spring and was being criminally charged for something he absolutely did not do. For awhile it looked like we might have hope, because the prosecutor was so disorganized that his arraignment was post-poned three times. We would trudge to court, pay outrageous fees to park, lose a days work, only to find out that the "other side" wasn't prepared or didn't bother to show up.
A sensible person would think a judge would throw a case out with such shoddy behavior, but it turns out that's not the case. We got the call last night...my husband has to appear for a bail hearing on Tuesday. He is devastated. I tried to be calm and tell him everything would be okay, and then last night I was woken up out of sound sleep with crushing chest pains. I couldn't breathe, and my whole body was shaking. After much back-and-forth about whether or not to call an ambulance, I finally started to feel a tiny bit better. In 2 hours the whole thing was gone. Stress is a powerful thing...
I need your support and prayers, ladies. A long phone call with our lawyer this morning quelled some of his anxiety, but in the end, a computer is being used to accuse him of egregious crimes he didn't commit. I've got some of the 'evidence' in my posession, and without going into too many details, I can say with 150% certainty that he didn't do this. It's blaringly obvious and yet the justice system just isn't seeing it that way. SO FRUSTRATING! I want to have faith in our courts and legal system, but then again, am I being naive? Do innocent people really get falsely charged and convicted? Does it really happen often enough that we should be scared? Or should we keep saying "He is innocent, so we have nothing to worry about."
Any advice, support, suggestions, are soooo appreciated. Thanks, gals....
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Robin,
I just wrote a "comment" to you and I guess I got my answer as to how you are doing. I believe that he will be exhonerated of these terrible charges and accusations if he did not do it. There's no way they could charge him with the evidence being presented.....there is too much "doubt" in this case for a guilty outcome. Praying that all turns out well for you.
Hugs,
Karen
I just wrote a "comment" to you and I guess I got my answer as to how you are doing. I believe that he will be exhonerated of these terrible charges and accusations if he did not do it. There's no way they could charge him with the evidence being presented.....there is too much "doubt" in this case for a guilty outcome. Praying that all turns out well for you.
Hugs,
Karen
Hi Robin~
I am so, so sorry to hear this. Yes, stress is a very powerful thing! Under the circumstances, I don't know how you wouldn't be experiencing what you are feeling.
The fact that the arriagnment was thrown out three times, will NOT look good for the prosecution. Just because a judge has agreed to listen to the case, doesn't mean there's enough evidence to support the (to prosecute yes, but not support) case. It just means the Judge has agreed to have the case brought to court.
Do you have faith in your Attorney? Was he an appointed Attorney, or did you seek him out on your own? My parents were both Attorneys (retired now), and yes, you have to have faith in the legal system. Is it perfect? No! That said, it is far and few between that innocent people are found guilty, when they are in fact innocent. It rarely happens Robin, you have to keep the FAITH!!! You have to believe that the legal systems will work in your favour. You know your husband is innocent, you both need to lean on the strength of each other.
My only suggestion is that if you don't believe in your Attorney 200%, find a new one.
I'll be saying many prayers for you, and keeping strong, positive thoughts.
((((HUGS))))
Karen
I am so, so sorry to hear this. Yes, stress is a very powerful thing! Under the circumstances, I don't know how you wouldn't be experiencing what you are feeling.
The fact that the arriagnment was thrown out three times, will NOT look good for the prosecution. Just because a judge has agreed to listen to the case, doesn't mean there's enough evidence to support the (to prosecute yes, but not support) case. It just means the Judge has agreed to have the case brought to court.
Do you have faith in your Attorney? Was he an appointed Attorney, or did you seek him out on your own? My parents were both Attorneys (retired now), and yes, you have to have faith in the legal system. Is it perfect? No! That said, it is far and few between that innocent people are found guilty, when they are in fact innocent. It rarely happens Robin, you have to keep the FAITH!!! You have to believe that the legal systems will work in your favour. You know your husband is innocent, you both need to lean on the strength of each other.
My only suggestion is that if you don't believe in your Attorney 200%, find a new one.
I'll be saying many prayers for you, and keeping strong, positive thoughts.
((((HUGS))))
Karen
QUOTE (RoundRobin @ Oct 26 2007, 09:23 AM) 
Hi guys. Well those of you who know me have known for awhile that my husband lost his job this past spring and was being criminally charged for something he absolutely did not do. For awhile it looked like we might have hope, because the prosecutor was so disorganized that his arraignment was post-poned three times. We would trudge to court, pay outrageous fees to park, lose a days work, only to find out that the "other side" wasn't prepared or didn't bother to show up.
A sensible person would think a judge would throw a case out with such shoddy behavior, but it turns out that's not the case. We got the call last night...my husband has to appear for a bail hearing on Tuesday. He is devastated. I tried to be calm and tell him everything would be okay, and then last night I was woken up out of sound sleep with crushing chest pains. I couldn't breathe, and my whole body was shaking. After much back-and-forth about whether or not to call an ambulance, I finally started to feel a tiny bit better. In 2 hours the whole thing was gone. Stress is a powerful thing...
I need your support and prayers, ladies. A long phone call with our lawyer this morning quelled some of his anxiety, but in the end, a computer is being used to accuse him of egregious crimes he didn't commit. I've got some of the 'evidence' in my posession, and without going into too many details, I can say with 150% certainty that he didn't do this. It's blaringly obvious and yet the justice system just isn't seeing it that way. SO FRUSTRATING! I want to have faith in our courts and legal system, but then again, am I being naive? Do innocent people really get falsely charged and convicted? Does it really happen often enough that we should be scared? Or should we keep saying "He is innocent, so we have nothing to worry about."
Any advice, support, suggestions, are soooo appreciated. Thanks, gals....
A sensible person would think a judge would throw a case out with such shoddy behavior, but it turns out that's not the case. We got the call last night...my husband has to appear for a bail hearing on Tuesday. He is devastated. I tried to be calm and tell him everything would be okay, and then last night I was woken up out of sound sleep with crushing chest pains. I couldn't breathe, and my whole body was shaking. After much back-and-forth about whether or not to call an ambulance, I finally started to feel a tiny bit better. In 2 hours the whole thing was gone. Stress is a powerful thing...
I need your support and prayers, ladies. A long phone call with our lawyer this morning quelled some of his anxiety, but in the end, a computer is being used to accuse him of egregious crimes he didn't commit. I've got some of the 'evidence' in my posession, and without going into too many details, I can say with 150% certainty that he didn't do this. It's blaringly obvious and yet the justice system just isn't seeing it that way. SO FRUSTRATING! I want to have faith in our courts and legal system, but then again, am I being naive? Do innocent people really get falsely charged and convicted? Does it really happen often enough that we should be scared? Or should we keep saying "He is innocent, so we have nothing to worry about."
Any advice, support, suggestions, are soooo appreciated. Thanks, gals....
Pray with all your heart and soul. He is the only one who can remove this terrible curse that has come upon your husband.
Dear Robin,
I am so very sorry you are going through this terrible time. I will be thinking the most positive thoughts for you and your family.
I have to echo what Karen said. I myself am an attorney and although I have never practiced criminal law, I can tell you that faith in your attorney is the most important thing. If you suspect for a moment that she/he does not know what is going on, then look for a new lawyer. Not all lawyers are good, in the same way that not all people with medical degrees are good. You should carefully evaluate the lawyer's skills at the very beginning, because most lawyers are reluctant to take cases after someone else has worked on them for a significant time.
For the most part our legal system works the way it is supposed to. Innocent people are very rarely penalized. It's just that the process can be so trying before the truth comes out.
Keep faith and please feel free to PM me any time. Although I cannot give legal advice, I--along with everyone else--am here to give you all the support you need.
Marcy
I am so very sorry you are going through this terrible time. I will be thinking the most positive thoughts for you and your family.
I have to echo what Karen said. I myself am an attorney and although I have never practiced criminal law, I can tell you that faith in your attorney is the most important thing. If you suspect for a moment that she/he does not know what is going on, then look for a new lawyer. Not all lawyers are good, in the same way that not all people with medical degrees are good. You should carefully evaluate the lawyer's skills at the very beginning, because most lawyers are reluctant to take cases after someone else has worked on them for a significant time.
For the most part our legal system works the way it is supposed to. Innocent people are very rarely penalized. It's just that the process can be so trying before the truth comes out.
Keep faith and please feel free to PM me any time. Although I cannot give legal advice, I--along with everyone else--am here to give you all the support you need.
Marcy
Robin,
I am praying all goes well in this situation. I know it makes you and your husband very apprehensive, and that is understandable. Hang in there - thoughts and prayers are with you.
Sandy
I am praying all goes well in this situation. I know it makes you and your husband very apprehensive, and that is understandable. Hang in there - thoughts and prayers are with you.
Sandy
Dearest Robin,
First.....many (((((((((Hugs))))))))!!!!!!
I can only second and third what Karen and Marcy have said. You must have an attorney you trust totally, with every fibre of your being. Listen to your inner senses, Robin, and follow that instinct. I remember things you wrote before, and NO WAY is he guilty. But look at it this way, because YOU and your husband need to look a positives at the moment. By being prosecuted, he has the chance to get a FULL and TOTAL exhoneration. Maybe this is what is needed to clear him and it is a judges wisdom rather than a way to 'harm your husband'. Yes, you are both hurting so much.....I can feel it in your post, but hun, we have to look on the side of evidence, and the weight is on YOUR side.
I hope that both of you can pull on the strengths that the positives can now bring and come together as a team. Hug lots, and do all the research and talking to attys you need to [both of you], but try not to get angry at each other when stressed.....come here Robin and vent away, even PM me if you want, and you can have my email addy, so many here are offering support, and take it!!!!
You are both deeply in my thoughts, and please, if your hubby knows we know at PS, please pass my message on to him as well.
I just wish I could give you a real life hug right now!!!
Viktoria
First.....many (((((((((Hugs))))))))!!!!!!
I can only second and third what Karen and Marcy have said. You must have an attorney you trust totally, with every fibre of your being. Listen to your inner senses, Robin, and follow that instinct. I remember things you wrote before, and NO WAY is he guilty. But look at it this way, because YOU and your husband need to look a positives at the moment. By being prosecuted, he has the chance to get a FULL and TOTAL exhoneration. Maybe this is what is needed to clear him and it is a judges wisdom rather than a way to 'harm your husband'. Yes, you are both hurting so much.....I can feel it in your post, but hun, we have to look on the side of evidence, and the weight is on YOUR side.
I hope that both of you can pull on the strengths that the positives can now bring and come together as a team. Hug lots, and do all the research and talking to attys you need to [both of you], but try not to get angry at each other when stressed.....come here Robin and vent away, even PM me if you want, and you can have my email addy, so many here are offering support, and take it!!!!
You are both deeply in my thoughts, and please, if your hubby knows we know at PS, please pass my message on to him as well.
I just wish I could give you a real life hug right now!!!
Viktoria
Robin:
Keep your chin up. It will all be okay!
Shakin'
Keep your chin up. It will all be okay!
Shakin'
Robin,
God is your advocator,,trust in what you know.I am praying the truth will come to the surface and the plead will be NOT GUILTY..
Hugs,
Pamela
God is your advocator,,trust in what you know.I am praying the truth will come to the surface and the plead will be NOT GUILTY..
Hugs,
Pamela
Thanks ladies. We are still a mess. I don't know what to do. This impacts my life in ways I haven't talked about here...and probably will at some point. I fluctuate between being strong and positive and then falling into a bath of tears and feeling totally helpless...
I'm so angry that this happened to him. And cyberlayde, I don't think this is a 'curse' on my husband, and I take offense at your language. Please just stop posting to me; I'm out of my wits at this point, I'd rather not hear from you and you know why. After what you have put me through, I'm frankly shocked that you have the nerve to post on my threads at all. Or should I share with the ladies here the 'lovely' pm you sent me?
Sorry, guys, I'm raw...
I'm so angry that this happened to him. And cyberlayde, I don't think this is a 'curse' on my husband, and I take offense at your language. Please just stop posting to me; I'm out of my wits at this point, I'd rather not hear from you and you know why. After what you have put me through, I'm frankly shocked that you have the nerve to post on my threads at all. Or should I share with the ladies here the 'lovely' pm you sent me?
Sorry, guys, I'm raw...
Dear Robin,
I feel terrible for what you are going through, I wish there was something more I could do. Don't beat yourself up for feeling the way you do. You have every right to feel every emotion, good/bad/indifferent. Pull from each other, you will get through it.
In regards to the other issue....Please remember the advice you gave me when I wanted to leave because of certain members. This a great community, and there are wonderful ladies over here. Don't waste another moment, another emotion on something negative like that. It took me a little while to realize........it's such a WASTE OF TIME!
((((HUGS))))
Karen
I feel terrible for what you are going through, I wish there was something more I could do. Don't beat yourself up for feeling the way you do. You have every right to feel every emotion, good/bad/indifferent. Pull from each other, you will get through it.
In regards to the other issue....Please remember the advice you gave me when I wanted to leave because of certain members. This a great community, and there are wonderful ladies over here. Don't waste another moment, another emotion on something negative like that. It took me a little while to realize........it's such a WASTE OF TIME!
((((HUGS))))
Karen
Robin,
I'm not from your country and do not know quite how your legal system works but expect it is a little like ours here. The failure of the prosecution to get their case together previously certainly will not look good, it seems to me as if they do not have the case together (lack of evidence perhaps, as none exists as he did no wrong) and are grasping at straws a bit.
Clearly you know your husband did not do what he is charged of and I do have faith in our democratic legal systems in that innocent people do not get convicted for things they did not do so feel sure eventually this will sort itself out and all will be well.
In the meantime though you must be going through the mill and wish you all best wishes at this horrid time for you. I will keep you in my prayers and ask you not to worry too much, hard I know. The waking up with chest pains must have been so frightening, try taking some camomile tea at bedtime to sooth you, with a bit of honey in it, it works for me a lot.
Much love
Amanda Mx
I'm not from your country and do not know quite how your legal system works but expect it is a little like ours here. The failure of the prosecution to get their case together previously certainly will not look good, it seems to me as if they do not have the case together (lack of evidence perhaps, as none exists as he did no wrong) and are grasping at straws a bit.
Clearly you know your husband did not do what he is charged of and I do have faith in our democratic legal systems in that innocent people do not get convicted for things they did not do so feel sure eventually this will sort itself out and all will be well.
In the meantime though you must be going through the mill and wish you all best wishes at this horrid time for you. I will keep you in my prayers and ask you not to worry too much, hard I know. The waking up with chest pains must have been so frightening, try taking some camomile tea at bedtime to sooth you, with a bit of honey in it, it works for me a lot.
Much love
Amanda Mx
QUOTE (thinkpink44 @ Oct 26 2007, 01:25 PM)
Robin,
God is your advocator,,trust in what you know.I am praying the truth will come to the surface and the plead will be NOT GUILTY..
Hugs,
Pamela
God is your advocator,,trust in what you know.I am praying the truth will come to the surface and the plead will be NOT GUILTY..
Hugs,
Pamela
A wonderful reply. I can only second that. People can give you hugs, they can advise, they can wish you well, but only God can deliver you.
QUOTE (RoundRobin @ Oct 26 2007, 01:42 PM)
Thanks ladies. We are still a mess. I don't know what to do. This impacts my life in ways I haven't talked about here...and probably will at some point. I fluctuate between being strong and positive and then falling into a bath of tears and feeling totally helpless...
I'm so angry that this happened to him. And cyberlayde, I don't think this is a 'curse' on my husband, and I take offense at your language. Please just stop posting to me; I'm out of my wits at this point, I'd rather not hear from you and you know why. After what you have put me through, I'm frankly shocked that you have the nerve to post on my threads at all. Or should I share with the ladies here the 'lovely' pm you sent me?
Sorry, guys, I'm raw...
I'm so angry that this happened to him. And cyberlayde, I don't think this is a 'curse' on my husband, and I take offense at your language. Please just stop posting to me; I'm out of my wits at this point, I'd rather not hear from you and you know why. After what you have put me through, I'm frankly shocked that you have the nerve to post on my threads at all. Or should I share with the ladies here the 'lovely' pm you sent me?
Sorry, guys, I'm raw...
Ouch! Go ahead and share it, I've got nothing to hide. I don't live in fear like you do. I sent you a comment apologizing to you and you lack forgiveness. If you want to be angry and willful that's up to you. I have nothing to fear from you or anyone on here. I don't live my life running to all the wrong places for answers. Frankly, I'm offended at some of your posts but I don't throw threats at you. We all are neighbors and we are to love one another. I will continue to pray for you because you are my neighbor and because you need it.
God Bless!
Cyberlayde: This is a non-sectarian site, and yet you choose to cram your beliefs down everyone's throats every chance you get. Like Robin, I too cringed when I saw your use of the word "curse," though I didn't speak up at the time. It's not for you to decide what the "right" source of help is, or who is "cursed."
cyberlayde: Did you get your tattoo yet?
WOW!!! Talk about stress levels going through the roof!!!
I wish you and your husband all the luck in the world.
THE TRUTH WILL COME OUT!!
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
I wish you and your husband all the luck in the world.
THE TRUTH WILL COME OUT!!
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Yeah, Armadillo, me be a mess. This has been going on sooo long. I didn't talk about it for a long while, and I know other people have just as horrible problems to deal with as me. Sorry for losing it here.
QUOTE (RoundRobin @ Oct 26 2007, 03:00 PM)
cyberlayde: Did you get your tattoo yet?
You're really showing how immature you are by bringing this up. I truly am sorry for you that you have to go to these extremes.
QUOTE (RoundRobin @ Oct 26 2007, 03:10 PM)
Yeah, Armadillo, me be a mess. This has been going on sooo long. I didn't talk about it for a long while, and I know other people have just as horrible problems to deal with as me. Sorry for losing it here.
Hey.....I'm the resident crazy woman around here. So there is no need to EVER apologise for "losing it". As a matter of fact, I would expect an outburst or two or three with the stress you're under.
BTW....I met with my shrink this morning. And guess what? Not only do I have OCD with neurosis, now, on top of it, I also am BiPolar!!!! I thought there was a limit to the amount of mental illnesses a person could have. But no.......I've hit the jackpot! Now I'm taking more pills than Elvis ever did.
So don't worry, you're not going crazy. But if you are, let me be the first to welcome you into Mad Ladies Meno Lounge.
It's only painful when you're GOING crazy.
Once you're already there, it's painless.
But being serious, I will send up my prayers for you and your husband.
I hope Justice is swift. She may be blind, but that doesn't mean she cannot see..................
Armadillo: Thank you!!! Geez, another diagnosis--what do these doctors do, get an extra bonus for everything they tell us is wrong?? (lol.) We should start a thread of all the things we've been diagnosed with---there is really no definitive diagnosis for BPD...it's the doctors' opinion based on evaluation, I think...which means it's one guys (gals?) opinion...doctors differ, we differ...heck, I go from sane to crazy in 60 secs these days!
Seriously, though, thank you for understanding my insanity (gee, did that make any sense????)
Seriously, though, thank you for understanding my insanity (gee, did that make any sense????)
QUOTE (witsend @ Oct 26 2007, 02:56 PM)
Cyberlayde: This is a non-sectarian site, and yet you choose to cram your beliefs down everyone's throats every chance you get. Like Robin, I too cringed when I saw your use of the word "curse," though I didn't speak up at the time. It's not for you to decide what the "right" source of help is, or who is "cursed."
If you don't want to read it then don't. I'm not forcing you too. It is a shame how many people get offended by the good in the world rather than the bad. There are a lot of comments on this site and others that make me cringe. However, I look the other way because people have their own opinions. I can let it get to me or I can ignore them. I sift through what I believe and throw the rest away and I don't let it get to me.
Hey cy: keep yer bloomers on woman, I was trying to inject some humor....
[quote name='Armadillo' date='Oct 26 2007, 03:40 PM' post='193120']
Hey.....I'm the resident crazy woman around here. So there is no need to EVER apologise for "losing it". As a matter of fact, I would expect an outburst or two or three with the stress you're under.
BTW....I met with my shrink this morning. And guess what? Not only do I have OCD with neurosis, now, on top of it, I also am BiPolar!!!! I thought there was a limit to the amount of mental illnesses a person could have. But no.......I've hit the jackpot! Now I'm taking more pills than Elvis ever did.
Oh, I'm so sorry to hear this. I've always thought that peri/meno was like being BiPolar. It really screws up the hormones so much you don't know whether you're coming or going at times. Did he put you on a mood stabilizer?
I hope you feel better soon.
Hey.....I'm the resident crazy woman around here. So there is no need to EVER apologise for "losing it". As a matter of fact, I would expect an outburst or two or three with the stress you're under.
BTW....I met with my shrink this morning. And guess what? Not only do I have OCD with neurosis, now, on top of it, I also am BiPolar!!!! I thought there was a limit to the amount of mental illnesses a person could have. But no.......I've hit the jackpot! Now I'm taking more pills than Elvis ever did.
Oh, I'm so sorry to hear this. I've always thought that peri/meno was like being BiPolar. It really screws up the hormones so much you don't know whether you're coming or going at times. Did he put you on a mood stabilizer?
I hope you feel better soon.
robin!
Just wanted to add my best wishes as well. I am going through some pretty heavy stuff in my life too and I know how difficult it can be. I hope that your husband gets off from these false charges and I am going to believe that he will...putting positive thoughts out there in the universe for you!!! You should do that as well!!
I also cringed when I read the "cursed" comment and was quite shocked by it!! Some of the cruelest and most judgemental people I have ever met in my life have hidden behind their "religion" so don't let it get you down or upset. Just consider the source and move on. It is interesting..all 3 of my daughter's have tattoos as does my sister. And they are good people...surprise surprise.
I have received kind words from you Robin and thank you for them!! Good luck to you and your family!
Floater
Just wanted to add my best wishes as well. I am going through some pretty heavy stuff in my life too and I know how difficult it can be. I hope that your husband gets off from these false charges and I am going to believe that he will...putting positive thoughts out there in the universe for you!!! You should do that as well!!
I also cringed when I read the "cursed" comment and was quite shocked by it!! Some of the cruelest and most judgemental people I have ever met in my life have hidden behind their "religion" so don't let it get you down or upset. Just consider the source and move on. It is interesting..all 3 of my daughter's have tattoos as does my sister. And they are good people...surprise surprise.
I have received kind words from you Robin and thank you for them!! Good luck to you and your family!
Floater
QUOTE (Floater @ Oct 26 2007, 04:47 PM)
robin!
Just wanted to add my best wishes as well. I am going through some pretty heavy stuff in my life too and I know how difficult it can be. I hope that your husband gets off from these false charges and I am going to believe that he will...putting positive thoughts out there in the universe for you!!! You should do that as well!!
I also cringed when I read the "cursed" comment and was quite shocked by it!! Some of the cruelest and most judgemental people I have ever met in my life have hidden behind their "religion" so don't let it get you down or upset. Just consider the source and move on. It is interesting..all 3 of my daughter's have tattoos as does my sister. And they are good people...surprise surprise.
I have received kind words from you Robin and thank you for them!! Good luck to you and your family!
Floater
Just wanted to add my best wishes as well. I am going through some pretty heavy stuff in my life too and I know how difficult it can be. I hope that your husband gets off from these false charges and I am going to believe that he will...putting positive thoughts out there in the universe for you!!! You should do that as well!!
I also cringed when I read the "cursed" comment and was quite shocked by it!! Some of the cruelest and most judgemental people I have ever met in my life have hidden behind their "religion" so don't let it get you down or upset. Just consider the source and move on. It is interesting..all 3 of my daughter's have tattoos as does my sister. And they are good people...surprise surprise.
I have received kind words from you Robin and thank you for them!! Good luck to you and your family!
Floater
So sorry to have offended you. Now can we move on?
QUOTE (cyberlayde @ Oct 26 2007, 04:24 PM)
Oh, I'm so sorry to hear this. I've always thought that peri/meno was like being BiPolar. It really screws up the hormones so much you don't know whether you're coming or going at times. Did he put you on a mood stabilizer?
I hope you feel better soon.
I hope you feel better soon.
Read the update in my OCD thread about the latest crazy meds they put me on. I don't want to hijack RR's thread, but yes, I am feeling better, thanks!
QUOTE (cyberlayde @ Oct 26 2007, 04:59 PM)
So sorry to have offended you. Now can we move on?
Do you think you can erase what's been said by simply suggesting . . . now can we move on? No, we can't move on until you understand and discontinue this type of behavior.
While a fellow member (in this case, Robin) is going through a very difficult time, WHERE do you get the gall to tell her that her husband has a curse on him? What lives inside you that would cause you to say something so malicious? If anything goes against the religious beliefs of EVERY PERSON OF EVERY RELIGION it's that kind of behavior.
You say to people that if THEY don't want to read your constant religious references THEY don't have to read them.
Excuse me, but *I* don't want to read them.
*I* don't want them on this site.
You are well aware of this, but you continue to ignore it.
*I* say that if YOU don't like what someone's posted, YOU DONT HAVE TO REPLY to it.
I told you in a very courteous PM when you said you were going to leave that the guidelines on this site have ALWAYS prohibited religious discussions and proselytizing. They don't belong here. However, you completely disregard the guidelines and do as you please. You tell people how to live their lives according to your religious beliefs. Your beliefs are not everyone's beliefs.
There are scores of message boards where women constantly engage in arguing and confrontation. This board is not about confrontation, arguing, maliciousness OR RELIGION. I have spent almost 14 years creating and maintaining a "community" that is intended to be a haven for support, compassion and friendship. It's intended to be a safe place for women to vent their problems without fear of judgment, without fear of someone imposing the wrath of GOD on them if they discuss something like getting a tattoo, or decide to have cosmetic surgery. It's even intended to lend a safety net for any woman who may need to discuss a desire to have an affair without having someone cram the laws of GOD down her throat.
You are not my judge. You are not anyone's judge.
If you can't follow the guidelines, and if you don't like what I've said . . . then you can move on . . . elsewhere.
Dearest (talk about stressed out)
QUOTE (RoundRobin @ Oct 26 2007, 02:46 PM)
Hey cy: keep yer bloomers on woman, I was trying to inject some humor....
WHAT is going on in here?? Isn't this suppose to be a SUPPORT group??
NOT a kick one another when we are down group!!!
This grieves my heart to no end!!
There are so many hurting people in this world and we have nothing better to do than to
run each other into the ground when they are down??
Doesn't say much for the God you supposedly serve.
Have you NEVER been down before in your entire life??
QUOTE (Dearest @ Oct 26 2007, 05:24 PM)
Do you think you can erase what's been said by simply suggesting . . . now can we move on? No, we can't move on until you understand and discontinue this type of behavior.
While a fellow member is going through a very difficult time, WHERE do you get the gall to tell her that her husband has a curse on him? What lives inside you that would cause you to say something so malicious? If anything goes against the religious beliefs of EVERY PERSON OF EVERY RELIGION it's that kind of behavior.
You say to people that if THEY don't want to read your constant religious references THEY don't have to read them. *I* say that if YOU don't like what someone's posted, don't REPLY to it.
EXCUSE ME, BUT *I* DON'T WANT TO READ THEM.
*I* DON'T WANT THEM ON THIS SITE.
YOU ARE WELL AWARE OF THIS, BUT YOU CONTINUE TO IGNORE IT.
I told you in a very courteous PM when you said you were going to leave that the guidelines on this site have ALWAYS prohibited religious discussions and proselytizing. They don't belong here. However, you completely disregard the guidelines and do as you please. You tell people how to live their lives according to your religious beliefs. Your beliefs are not everyone's beliefs.
There are scores of message boards where women constantly engage in arguing and confrontation. This board is not about confrontation, arguing, maliciousness OR RELIGION. I have spent almost 14 years creating and maintaining a "community" that is intended to be a haven for support, compassion and friendship. It's intended to be a safe place for women to vent their problems without fear of judgment, without fear of someone imposing the wrath of GOD on them if they discuss something like getting a tattoo, or decide to have cosmetic surgery. It's intended to lend a safety net for any woman who may need to discuss a desire to have an affair without having someone cram the law of GOD down her throat.
You are not my judge. You are not anyone's judge.
If you can't follow the guidelines, and if you don't like what I've said . . . then you can move on . . . elsewhere.
Dearest (talk about stressed out)
THANK YOU SO MUCH DEAREST!! Even though this had absolutely nothing to do with me, in a sense it does, because PS has been a safe place for most of us to share our joys and our pain and suffering. It is people like her that take that away from us and it breaks my heart to think that anyone would feel they couldn't come here.
This place has literally saved my sanity and even my life!!
I have shared things here that I have never shared with anyone else and I have felt safe to do it right here!!
Thank you so much for keeping this a safe place for all of us!!
Dearest: Thank you so much; I cannot express how much your post meant to me...you are the heartbeat of Power-surge!
Robin,
I am so sorry. I am praying that you have as much peace as possible to get through this and that justice will be served and this will end with your husband's good name restored.
I'm truly sorry. Please take care of yourself the best that you can through this.
Peace and Love,
Bonnie
I am so sorry. I am praying that you have as much peace as possible to get through this and that justice will be served and this will end with your husband's good name restored.
I'm truly sorry. Please take care of yourself the best that you can through this.
Peace and Love,
Bonnie
Bonnie: thank you---I love your name--the only other person I've ever known named Bonnie is my cousin!
Dear Robin, Im so sorry to hear about all this trouble, but you know that in the end the truth will come out and your husband will all be fine. Its a scary world out there and things lke this are going on everyday, innocent people get trapped, its always a fight between good and bad. Dont worry about the chest pains, your know its all the stress and terrible anxiety. Also, it couldnt hurt to get an opinion from another attorney, if your not totally satisfied with who is representing your husband. Dont worry, it will all work out in the end. I will put you in my prayers tonight.
Hugs, Ivy
Hugs, Ivy
QUOTE (RoundRobin @ Oct 26 2007, 09:23 AM)
Hi guys. Well those of you who know me have known for awhile that my husband lost his job this past spring and was being criminally charged for something he absolutely did not do. For awhile it looked like we might have hope, because the prosecutor was so disorganized that his arraignment was post-poned three times. We would trudge to court, pay outrageous fees to park, lose a days work, only to find out that the "other side" wasn't prepared or didn't bother to show up.
A sensible person would think a judge would throw a case out with such shoddy behavior, but it turns out that's not the case. We got the call last night...my husband has to appear for a bail hearing on Tuesday. He is devastated. I tried to be calm and tell him everything would be okay, and then last night I was woken up out of sound sleep with crushing chest pains. I couldn't breathe, and my whole body was shaking. After much back-and-forth about whether or not to call an ambulance, I finally started to feel a tiny bit better. In 2 hours the whole thing was gone. Stress is a powerful thing...
I need your support and prayers, ladies. A long phone call with our lawyer this morning quelled some of his anxiety, but in the end, a computer is being used to accuse him of egregious crimes he didn't commit. I've got some of the 'evidence' in my posession, and without going into too many details, I can say with 150% certainty that he didn't do this. It's blaringly obvious and yet the justice system just isn't seeing it that way. SO FRUSTRATING! I want to have faith in our courts and legal system, but then again, am I being naive? Do innocent people really get falsely charged and convicted? Does it really happen often enough that we should be scared? Or should we keep saying "He is innocent, so we have nothing to worry about."
Any advice, support, suggestions, are soooo appreciated. Thanks, gals....
A sensible person would think a judge would throw a case out with such shoddy behavior, but it turns out that's not the case. We got the call last night...my husband has to appear for a bail hearing on Tuesday. He is devastated. I tried to be calm and tell him everything would be okay, and then last night I was woken up out of sound sleep with crushing chest pains. I couldn't breathe, and my whole body was shaking. After much back-and-forth about whether or not to call an ambulance, I finally started to feel a tiny bit better. In 2 hours the whole thing was gone. Stress is a powerful thing...
I need your support and prayers, ladies. A long phone call with our lawyer this morning quelled some of his anxiety, but in the end, a computer is being used to accuse him of egregious crimes he didn't commit. I've got some of the 'evidence' in my posession, and without going into too many details, I can say with 150% certainty that he didn't do this. It's blaringly obvious and yet the justice system just isn't seeing it that way. SO FRUSTRATING! I want to have faith in our courts and legal system, but then again, am I being naive? Do innocent people really get falsely charged and convicted? Does it really happen often enough that we should be scared? Or should we keep saying "He is innocent, so we have nothing to worry about."
Any advice, support, suggestions, are soooo appreciated. Thanks, gals....
Roundrobin............ 
I wish I could give you a big hug and everything will be o.k. I'm so glad that you keep us informed and I know your husband and you will come out of this stronger then ever!! You have been through a lot and it just isn't fair what is happening to your family.
We are "family" here & I know Power Surge have some great sista's here. You've been here & given advice to alot of us women and we're here for your time of need. So, just lean on us & we're here for you. Take Care of yourself.......I know this is hard but can you have a nice relaxing "bubble bath" and deep breathe & daydream a nice vacation spot.
Thank you Dearest.......... I'm so glad for your post.......... I thought that particular post & ongoing posts were very hurtful, and unnecessary for us all. You have a wonderful site and people need to respect Power Surge and all us beautiful women. Thanks for providing us with a safe place to vent, ask for help or just a place to chat.
Logan
I wish I could give you a big hug and everything will be o.k. I'm so glad that you keep us informed and I know your husband and you will come out of this stronger then ever!! You have been through a lot and it just isn't fair what is happening to your family.
We are "family" here & I know Power Surge have some great sista's here. You've been here & given advice to alot of us women and we're here for your time of need. So, just lean on us & we're here for you. Take Care of yourself.......I know this is hard but can you have a nice relaxing "bubble bath" and deep breathe & daydream a nice vacation spot.
Thank you Dearest.......... I'm so glad for your post.......... I thought that particular post & ongoing posts were very hurtful, and unnecessary for us all. You have a wonderful site and people need to respect Power Surge and all us beautiful women. Thanks for providing us with a safe place to vent, ask for help or just a place to chat.
Logan
Hi ((((Robin))))
Loads of great advice here - all I can add is, that I'm also sending you loads of hugs and prayers.
You've got so much support here and caring friends, imagine that as a shield around you protecting you from hurt.
Peace, Jonie
Loads of great advice here - all I can add is, that I'm also sending you loads of hugs and prayers.
You've got so much support here and caring friends, imagine that as a shield around you protecting you from hurt.
Peace, Jonie
Hi everyone. I feel so beaten up. I'm sorry that cyberlayde had such a problem with me. I've been feeling weird and bad about it all night. My tatoo thread got her all upset and then this thread too. I never was mean to her until yesterday when I just lost it.
I'm sorry to sound like I'm whining. I had another bad night...chest pains, diarrhea, no it's morning and I feel like a dishrag that's been sqeezed dry. And yet I keep crying. I'm so scared to go to court on Tuesday. I"m scared the bail will be set too high and he'll end up prison. This is like a bad dream that I can't wake up from.
We met 4 years ago and it was like fairy tale romance. I couldn't believe something good had finally happened to me. It had been 11 long years of raising my daughter on my own and dating mostly abusive men. Then my DH came along. It was wondeful. And ever since we said "I do", we've had nothing but horrible life problems. His mother was dx with ovarian cancer the day before our wedding. Then his father broke his hip and needed major surgery. My DD went off the college, which of course isn't a bad thing, but it was gut wrenching for me to see her get on a plane to go live 1500 miles away. Then this. This horrible, rotten awful thing. I fluctate so much, ladies. One minute I'm fine...got it all in perspective, then the next minute I'm crying, like right now. How do I get through this? And should I do what my mother wants me to do and leave him? She's a cold nasty person and yet she says she is only looking out for me. That he has never brought anything but pain and misery into my life. But none of it is his fault.
I just want to run away. I want to hide somewhere and retreat from life. I feel like I can't handle this.
I'm sorry to sound like I'm whining. I had another bad night...chest pains, diarrhea, no it's morning and I feel like a dishrag that's been sqeezed dry. And yet I keep crying. I'm so scared to go to court on Tuesday. I"m scared the bail will be set too high and he'll end up prison. This is like a bad dream that I can't wake up from.
We met 4 years ago and it was like fairy tale romance. I couldn't believe something good had finally happened to me. It had been 11 long years of raising my daughter on my own and dating mostly abusive men. Then my DH came along. It was wondeful. And ever since we said "I do", we've had nothing but horrible life problems. His mother was dx with ovarian cancer the day before our wedding. Then his father broke his hip and needed major surgery. My DD went off the college, which of course isn't a bad thing, but it was gut wrenching for me to see her get on a plane to go live 1500 miles away. Then this. This horrible, rotten awful thing. I fluctate so much, ladies. One minute I'm fine...got it all in perspective, then the next minute I'm crying, like right now. How do I get through this? And should I do what my mother wants me to do and leave him? She's a cold nasty person and yet she says she is only looking out for me. That he has never brought anything but pain and misery into my life. But none of it is his fault.
I just want to run away. I want to hide somewhere and retreat from life. I feel like I can't handle this.
Robin, first off: I am SO sorry for the pain you are going through right now. My heart goes out to you and I DO pray that things will start looking up. Sometimes challenges in life help to make us better people. I know you are a strong woman and I have faith that you will get through this trying time and come out on top. And you owe NO apologies, at least in my opinion you don't. That was very unfair for another P/Surger to attack you like that. That's not what these boards are all about. S U P P O R T ~ C O M F O R T ~ C O M P A S S I O N. Thankfully, the best of us give these three things. Hang in there my friend. (((((((HUGS!))))))))
Alice: You are my hero *smile* Thank you for being there for us when we need you most.
Alice: You are my hero *smile* Thank you for being there for us when we need you most.
{{{{Hugs}}}} To You Robin 
Yes indeed.... as Kleeo has said.....
SUPPORT ~ COMFORT ~ COMPASSION
Women helping other women.
Sisterhood ~ Non-Judgemental ~ Caring ~ Loving
If you can not say something nice...something helpful....add some assurance to your 'sister' of Da Surge.....Then ....move on indeed......
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Dottie
{{{{Dearest }}}}
Yes indeed.... as Kleeo has said.....
SUPPORT ~ COMFORT ~ COMPASSION Women helping other women.
Sisterhood ~ Non-Judgemental ~ Caring ~ LovingIf you can not say something nice...something helpful....add some assurance to your 'sister' of Da Surge.....Then ....move on indeed......
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~ ~ Dottie Thank You
{{{{Dearest }}}}
This is QUITE a bit of this topic (sorry!) but OMG Dot! WHERE do you come up with those funky smileys? I'm so crazy about them! Just make things look so...........happy!!!
Just make things look so...........happy!!!
QUOTE (RoundRobin @ Oct 27 2007, 10:31 AM)
Hi everyone. I feel so beaten up. I'm sorry that cyberlayde had such a problem with me. I've been feeling weird and bad about it all night. My tatoo thread got her all upset and then this thread too. I never was mean to her until yesterday when I just lost it.
I'm sorry to sound like I'm whining. I had another bad night...chest pains, diarrhea, no it's morning and I feel like a dishrag that's been sqeezed dry. And yet I keep crying. I'm so scared to go to court on Tuesday. I"m scared the bail will be set too high and he'll end up prison. This is like a bad dream that I can't wake up from.
We met 4 years ago and it was like fairy tale romance. I couldn't believe something good had finally happened to me. It had been 11 long years of raising my daughter on my own and dating mostly abusive men. Then my DH came along. It was wondeful. And ever since we said "I do", we've had nothing but horrible life problems. His mother was dx with ovarian cancer the day before our wedding. Then his father broke his hip and needed major surgery. My DD went off the college, which of course isn't a bad thing, but it was gut wrenching for me to see her get on a plane to go live 1500 miles away. Then this. This horrible, rotten awful thing. I fluctate so much, ladies. One minute I'm fine...got it all in perspective, then the next minute I'm crying, like right now. How do I get through this? And should I do what my mother wants me to do and leave him? She's a cold nasty person and yet she says she is only looking out for me. That he has never brought anything but pain and misery into my life. But none of it is his fault.
I just want to run away. I want to hide somewhere and retreat from life. I feel like I can't handle this.
I'm sorry to sound like I'm whining. I had another bad night...chest pains, diarrhea, no it's morning and I feel like a dishrag that's been sqeezed dry. And yet I keep crying. I'm so scared to go to court on Tuesday. I"m scared the bail will be set too high and he'll end up prison. This is like a bad dream that I can't wake up from.
We met 4 years ago and it was like fairy tale romance. I couldn't believe something good had finally happened to me. It had been 11 long years of raising my daughter on my own and dating mostly abusive men. Then my DH came along. It was wondeful. And ever since we said "I do", we've had nothing but horrible life problems. His mother was dx with ovarian cancer the day before our wedding. Then his father broke his hip and needed major surgery. My DD went off the college, which of course isn't a bad thing, but it was gut wrenching for me to see her get on a plane to go live 1500 miles away. Then this. This horrible, rotten awful thing. I fluctate so much, ladies. One minute I'm fine...got it all in perspective, then the next minute I'm crying, like right now. How do I get through this? And should I do what my mother wants me to do and leave him? She's a cold nasty person and yet she says she is only looking out for me. That he has never brought anything but pain and misery into my life. But none of it is his fault.
I just want to run away. I want to hide somewhere and retreat from life. I feel like I can't handle this.
Dear Robin,
I really feel your pain, and it's ok to cry, vent and experience the feelings as they happen. Don't bottle them up or that will make you feel worse, and it's bad for your health too. Robin, the fear is normal, and so is all you are feeling, but is there maybe a possibility that you might need some medication help at this time? I'm not one to push meds at all, but I know I could not go through what you are without and help by way of something to calm my nervous system, if only for a break.
As for what happened with Cyberlayde, that was not, nor ever was your problem. You reacted to her in a way that was protective towards your husband, and that is far more loving and caring to see than what was happening by said poster. Thanks to Dearest, the problem is solved.
Robin, as for what your Mom says, you have to follow your heart. No one can tell you what to do, or should even attempt to. It would be wrong and controlling. Is it perhaps more that you 'feel' like running, rather than want to leave him? I get that feeling, because Robin, I also sense your love for him, and even if you left, I wonder if you would feel any better. Just something for you to think on.
Just know we all care about you and your well being. You are very far from alone.
Hugs,
Viktoria
QUOTE (Kleeo @ Oct 27 2007, 12:31 PM)
This is QUITE a bit of this topic (sorry!) but OMG Dot! WHERE do you come up with those funky smileys? I'm so crazy about them! Just make things look so...........happy!!!
Just make things look so...........happy!!!........like that Keeo
Robin, I'm hoping that this latest news turns out to be another step in the process of your husband's complete vindication. My thoughts and prayers are with you!! I can't even imagine the stress you must be under, but I admire how well you are holding it together. And before you can argue, you are doing extremely well under the circumstances. You are still working and taking care of your personal life, along with having the common sense to post here for support, and I hope, also turning to friends outside of the cyber world for support. I've always admired your willingness to share with the rest of us and wish I could do something more for you!!!
Thanks everyone. I've spent the day in bed. Hubby made me turkey, mashed potatoes and gravy for dinner (the heck with the diet tonight.) Comfort food. It's raining and cold outside and I've just been hiding in bed watching '60's re-runs. I'll try to remember everything you said. One day at at a time....easier said then done. I keep forgettnig to take care of myself...to get enough sleep, to eat 3x a day. I drank too much wine last night and now I have the headache and sore tummy to remind me that it's not a good way to cope.
You lovely ladies are my life line; I don't know what I would do without Dearest and her wonderuful community. Thank you from the bottome of my heart for you support...
You lovely ladies are my life line; I don't know what I would do without Dearest and her wonderuful community. Thank you from the bottome of my heart for you support...
RoundRobin, I totally miss this topic!
So I want to send you a BIG HUG and Best Wishes too.
So glad you spend today in bed, I did the same thing yesterday! We must take care of our selfs> stress is a killer.
Can't wait until you post everything is fine with your husband!
So I want to send you a BIG HUG and Best Wishes too.
So glad you spend today in bed, I did the same thing yesterday! We must take care of our selfs> stress is a killer.
Can't wait until you post everything is fine with your husband!
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