Wow, at last I have found others who are experiencing exactly what I have been going through. I found this site a few weeks back and was so thankful to know that all of my symptoms were not just in my head and that there are others who share almost to a tee the same things I have expeienced in the past almost two years. The jealousy and insecurity thing has been the biggest of all. I think it's because are realizing we have lost our youth and that the beauty of youth is very attractive to many. My husband and I have only been married 8 months and I keep much of my thoughts and fears to myself. I do the same things, check his cell phone, check up behind him on everything. I imagine that he desires younger women sexually and that I'm someone he does love and loves to be with spending time, but, I also think that if he had a chance at a younger women, he might dump me. Dumb hu? Well, I do believe that since I started on Celexa 40 mg, my anxiety and panic attacks have pretty much all but dissappeared completly. I still feel it try to overcome me sometimes but mainly the anxiety and fear have diminished tremendously. I feel more confident, at ease and happy. Mabey this is something you could try. Good luck and hang in there.

Hi gibbersbaby,

Glad to hear that the Celexa 40 are doing you some good. It is a horrid feeling to be constantly insecure and jealous, I hate it and am desperate to go back to how I used to be - I am not taking any medication as I am on Tamoxifen for breast cancer and am reluctant to take anything else. However, I am assured that these feelings will pass and am holding on to that hope. I am also trying a new plan to allocate myself 30 mins worry time a day and so far (although the emotions and feelings are hovering around me) I have managed to put them on hold. Time will tell.


Although I have been married for 19 years I still feel the same as you, I know my husband loves me etc but cannot believe that he would not want a younger more attractive person. I even get jealous with women on TV if he is watching a programme! There is one actress he likes and thankfully she is not on TV very often but I have looked up her website and she is stunning which makes me feel even worse. I seem to be the one obsessed with her and feel that she is a threat because he finds her beautiful - how weird is that?

So glad I found this site because when I feel low I remember I am not alone and there are many women all over the world in the same situation. We are off to a party tonight, I only hope my new plan works otherwise I will have to put a box over his head to stop him looking at anyone there!
Stay strong

Loady
Loady

Hi girls - I posted on this same subject 3 years ago - here's the link and some replies.
http://www.power-surge.com/php/forums/inde...ost&p=76078

First, I think your insecurities will improve as time goes on and your hormone issues are addressed. Secondly, it's only normal to feel this way because we do live in a culture where youth (and beauty) is worshipped and we have aged.

You know, if our hubby's have no prior history of being womanizers, then I think we should just chill out and not feel threatened because they like the looks of young pretty women. Be honest girls, don't YOU enjoy looking at a handsome young man? Of course you do, but it doesn't meant you want to trade hubby in for him! (well, then again.....just kidding!)

We need to give them a little slack. And guess what, they enjoyed looking at pretty women when we were still young too! They're guys!! But that doesn't mean they're immoral or planning to dump us!! Instead of being jealous, why not join in on the fun a little. Tell them when you see a guy you think is hot - not offensively, just matter of factly. My hubby doesn't know what kind of guy looks good to a woman so I have to "educate" him on that. We have fun with it. I will also say something like, "Wow wouldn't you just love it if I looked like her? Then he'll say something funny like, 'No, because I'd probably die of a heart attack the first night, or if you did you'd leave me for a young handsome guy"

Anyway, try to relax, accept that we (and hubby) are aging, and that's OKAY!

Oh, and Gibberbaby, you should feel happy that he CHOSE to marry you just 8 months ago!! That means he thinks you're hot right now. I'm always asking my husband if we were both single would he be attracted to me "NOW" - (We've been married 34 years and I've gained about 50 lbs!) His usual answer? "That's such a Clair Huxtable question!" LOL!

Sierra