I should have included this in this forum long ago. Dr. Laura Petraek was a guest in Power Surge. Her book, The Anger Workbook For Women: How to Keep Your Anger from Undermining Your Self-Esteem, Your Emotional Balance, and Your Relationships is excellent.

Dr. Petracek says, "Rigid social patterning conditions many women to stifle or deny their anger, and this repression can cause a range of other psychological problems. Others experience violent, outwardly focused anger." Whichever pattern your anger follows, this book provides a powerful set of anger management tools. Cognitive behavioral and attitude adjustment exercises help you limit the power of anger-triggering situations. Worksheets and assessments guide you in an examination of family-of-origin issues that might contribute to your problems with anger. Sections of the workbook explore the connection between anger and substance abuse, mood disorders, and spirituality, as well as the issue of domestic violence."

You can read more about it in newsletter 75 at http://www.power-surge.com/issue75.htm

(I also recommend reading the many newsletters

Be sure to read her transcript at http://www.power-surge.com/transcripts/petracek.htm

Dearest

Thanks Dearest. I'm starting to get the anger in me again, so maybe something to read on it. Lizardlover

It is NOT me!! It is someone else!!

What I was meaning to say is; I am not me. I am someone else. I don't know WHO I am.

OH! What I'm trying to say is that the person I am now is not the person I was before perimeno.

bn

understood perfectly!

ellen

I am so glad SOMEONE understands!!! Cause I SURE don't!!

I know the feeling! When peri hit (sounds kinda like a hurricane name doesn't it? How APPROPIATE!) I felt as if someone has reached inside of me and literally RIPPED out my soul! I feel most days like a walking talking empty ANGRY shell and nothing more! I will get this book...I SO desperately want to find ME again! I miss her!

You've described it perfectly, thank you!! So many times I walk around thinking, is that all I am just an angry angry person.
I've decided these are my "Angry Years" LOL