I've gotten more touchy now that I am in perimenopause. I cannot stand it when anyone taps my bare thigh (He does that when he rubs my feet and legs sometimes), or my upper arms. I don't know what it is - I just know I get soooo irritated. It is the slapping sound that gets to me - not the actual physical contact.

Anyone notice things like that? Things you paid no attention to, and now it bugs the crap out of you? I can't wrap my mind around this one at all. So trivial, but generates so much anger!! LOL

Yeah i get that way sometimes, My hubby would like come up to me and give me a pat on behind i would rage at him it annoys the heck out of me. It must be called raging hormones lol. Take care Lizardlover

April....i think i understand what you mean....it's the little "sounds" that can throw me into a rage for some reason....everything seems so amplified....like when someone sets a drinking glass down,the noise it makes makes my head hurt,or the sound people make when they eat....even when they write on paper with a pen....or my little dog clock that's so cute and its tail wags...sometimes i can hear it when nobody else can and i can't stand it.

I find myself more irritated in general. Things I used to be able to ignore just send my head spinning, like people talking on their cell phones in the middle of an isle in the store, and being totally oblivious to the fact that they are in the way. Sounds. Sensations. People getting in my personal space really sends me crazy. Today, new neighbors were installing wood floors, and the periodic sound of the table saw about drove me nuts. Some days, I can't even stand it when my cat licks me. That is terrible!

Yes its like Permanent PMT (or PMS whatever you call it where you live)...

If i say something to my kids and i have to repeat it more than once i rage at them! I have so much less tolerence. WHy couldn't we go through this at 60 when kids have gone and we have more time to deal with it! lol!

2 kids in puberty, 2 women going thru meno, 1 poor kid stands alone and calm and sane. In another year she will join us all in hormone hell. Haha. You have to laugh eh? But not too hysterically or the neighbours might wonder! Teehee!

If only this headache would go away...

I have always been an extremely tolerant person. I'm sort of past it now, but the past few years, all I could think is that if I could just kill someone, I would feel so much better. It didn't matter who it was, just anyone would do. That's how out of control my anger had gotten. And don't you dare touch me or close me in!! I will fly through the roof in a heartbeat! I am also a single mother to a 17 year old son! CAn you imagine, 2 hormonal people in the same room??? He knows I could not stand the sight of him nor he me. I still feel extremely touchy, but not quite the rage I felt before. It use to be that I would envision myself plowing into someone on the road. Oh, please just once let me do this!!! I know it would help me through this!! bev

I do tech support, and if I have to repeat myself on the phone a lot, then I start to get really annoyed and it is hard not to be short or irritated with the customer. It just drives me when I finish a long sentence or instruction, and they say, "I didn't realize you were giving me instructions - now what was that you wanted me to do?"

GRRRrrrrrrrrrr.......Zzzz......ZZZzzz.......

My dog has been getting on my nerves,just her getting under my feet all the time.This did not bother me before.

I have found that I have a lot less tolerance for a lot of thing that used to not bother me. I hate being this way and thankfully I have a wonderful hubby that understands or tries to understand. If he stands too close to me sometimes, I instantly get grumpy and tell him he is suffocating me. Then I don't want to hurt his feelings and feel bad for pushing him away when all he was doing was trying to hug me. So I give him a hug. He probably thinks I am one crazy chic!

Various sounds bother me, things touching my skin, people in general, etc.

You're busy on the Board tonight or should I say this morning! Good for you, get it out!
Noises drive me crazy lately too. Espeacially background noise like someone playing music outside and all I hear is the annoying boom boom or whatever beat. At times I can't stand anyone talking to me, it's like spit it out be quiet!

I am so glad that I found this site! I know there women on here to talk to and totally understand me and vice versa. I love this site!!!!!

you know what ticked me off today was the cat meowing..... poor cat i felt bad for yelling at her i bought her a can of tuna-----

I can relate to wanting to kill someone, everyone! Wouldn't life be easier if everyone else would just leave? But I then come back to reality. I have to work, I have to drive places, I have to live in community with my fellow humans. It's a difficult time. But I swear, I'm trying everything I can to get through it without any killing. I find 30 minutes of exercise helps sweat out someof that aggression and frustration. I've heard sex can help, though I'm not actively in that type of relationship. Try prayer, meditation, relaxation techniques too. Sometimes a shower makes me feel fresh and renewed, at least I smell good for a couple of minutes. One thing for sure-don't give up! there's a whole slew of us going through this and we do need each other!!

Linda

I've had this happen, starting near my period, for years..jumpy and hypersensitive to mainly hearing and touch, but sometimes taste (and light) too! It has gotten more prominent since peri, and seems to last longer. My DH seems to notice it happening before I do. I'm SO glad to hear its not just me !!

I laughed when I saw this post, not because it was funny but because of the phrasing "touchy!" I think for some of us TOUCHY would be an understatement lol...


TJ

The sound of the dog's tag clinking against the metal part of his collar/leash. CLINK CLINK CLINK as he paces around looking for something to bark at. Don't get me started on the barking. I was so annoyed last week that I took some masking tape and wrapped tape around the tag so it wouldn't clink. Ah... sweet silence until the barking started...

The sound of my husband clearing his throat drives me nuts! His snoring! My daughter laughing loudly about something funny on youtube. My teenage neighbors stupid loud truck that he thinks is so cool.. I want to blow it up!
Never thought about killing him though.

Me too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm a big city girl. Have always been. This mothers day I got to choose a restuarant for dinner and my pick was in an intensly populated part of our city that is the equivalent of being in one of the large cities in India or any third world emerging economy. It was crowded, loud and very noisy and filled with "city smells" just walking to the resaurant. I thought I'd flip. I no longer enjoyed this type of thing! I used to absolutly thrive on it and now it makes me want to scream!!!!!!!!!! All the sensory input just makes angry - I need some room to breath.

We arrived at the restaurant which was packed and that made me uncomfortable too! I justed wanted to be somewhere quiet and calm. My DH and kids were just trying to please me so I acted cool and grateful but inside I was so angry and stressed.

Who have we become?

Could I actually no longer be the city girl / global citizen /I once was?

What is the next part of me I have to give up?

Fed up with this crap!

love and kisses (tee hee) pooks

I have some lovley noise cancelling headphones ,, also I have wireless headphones so I an go upstairs and lay in bed and watch my shows in relative peace ,, what me touchy !! Yes of course ,, some noises will send me through the roof !

it's hard to know who we will be when all this calms down. i was a city girl as well & now it's driving me crazy (& not just because things are so bleak here). i used to vacation in major cities like new york & paris, but for more than a few years now all i want to do is head somewhere in the wilderness where no one will be around. this seems to be a constant feeling, whereas the touchy episodes come & go & cross all sensory areas.

i hide from my neighbors these days & we are trying to move to a neighborhood that i would have hated in my 20s & 30s - too quiet & boring.

would love to hear from postmeno sisters on whether these changes seem to be long lasting.

hugs, ellen

Moonlight, I hear that!! My son decided it would be fun to see if I could hear one of those ring tones that only teenagers can hear......high pitched, too high for adults. WEEELLL I thought i was going to throw up and my head explode. I actually burst into tears it made me so angry. It wasn't my sons fault. I didn't think I would hear it either but it absolutely pierced me.

And yeah, slapping, grabbing, groping or general affection by my yummy partner can send me mental and momentarily I want to rip his face off. The next minute I am emotional and want a hug!! Gosh!! make up my mind.

Its like my ears are going to burst by the rustling of paper sometimes.......mental.

Dear Ellen
Am Post Menopause though still on HRT.I cannot bear loud noises,lots of people and overcrowded stores or malls.I really do not socialise as much as before nor feel the need too.I have three or four friends I see now and then,do my Yoga and have joined a BookClub.We each take turns at picking a book and then have a small supper arranged while we discuss the book.

Can assure you this quite enough for for me. In my early thirties to mid forties I would often entertain with dinners etc.Now these things do not interest me anymore.I can sit quietly doing my crossword listening to my favourite music .

Personally I feel these are the natural changes that come as one 'matures!'the need for less stimulation and more alone time..We have been through all the stress dealt with all the mess so are now winding down to a different place.

All the Best
Elizabeth

I would love to crawl in a cave till this is over .. like I tell my husband .. "I'd love to leave me ,, but i can't "

OMG .. I cant believe what you said about some setting down a glass !! my husband will just slam (to me anyway) his glass down on side tables and it makes me CRAZY ,, I have tried to explain to him if he could please put a coaster or towl over his night stand then it would help me tremendously ,, he doenst give a cr@p .. hmmm nope .. cant bury him in the backyard ,, we had a pool put in last summer

Dear'didgens'
Get the Pool taken out and choose best spot for hubby!I will come over and we can smash the concrete together!Then we can join a Gym instead .!

Thanks for the laugh
Elizabeth

LOL

elizabeth,

thanks so much for sharing this. it sounds like me in many ways (ok, not the entertaining part - alas, no cooking skills/desire), with the shift happening at an earlier time frame (i'm 45). i've loved living in my densely populated, crazy city for most of the last 15 yrs. but these last few have been increasingly hard & i find that i just want to hide from everyone, no small feat around here.

as i make the move to a quieter place, i have often wondered if this will stay with me or if i will miss the bustle & activity. all i know for certain is that this has been a steady progression to a different state/person. it will be interesting to see if this will be one of those enduring changes. i do think that you are right about some of it being natural changes that come with growing older (wish i could say that i was more mature by now....).

always appreciate your insight & support on the forums. thanks again.
xo, ellen