I'm not sure where to post this, but I've been thinking about things that I use to be able to do before perimenopause. I wonder if others are experiencing some of the same issues...

I'd like to be able to:

1. Cross my legs without my feet going numb (I've put on 50 plus pounds since peri.)

2. Get dress in the morning without drenching my clothes with sweat.

3. Figure out where is my waistline

4. Not have my now D-cups rest on my belly

5. Take pictures without the camera adding an additional 50 pounds

6. Get up from a seated position without my knee going snap, crackle and pop

7. Not have to take a separate bag with my hormone creams, vitamins, minerals, supplements, prescription meds.... when traveling

Believe me the list could get pretty lengthy, but I'll stop here. Anyone else?

I would like to make it through a day without something making me want to cry,drive without getting insanely angry,and feel like doing my housework!

I agree with both of ya...plus just get 1 good nights sleep! just 1..that would make me feel so much better i think..lol

I'd like to be able to get into bed without thinking whether I have the right thickness of nightdress on or duvet on the bed, or how cold or warm the bedroom is, should I leave a window open etc.

I remember the days when I jumped in to bed (okay it was in the years before the children came along) without bothering if I was wearing a nightdress or not

robin

I would like to be able to go anywhere and do anything without being irritated and uncomfortable around big crowds of people. This is ANXIETY rearing its ugly head!

I would like the energy of my youth. I miss feeling physically good...

i would like to have a sense of well being. feel love and joy when my dd's walk in a room, fall asleep by 10, enjoy a movie, and just feel good in my skin again!!

Hi, I would have to agree with everything everyone said, but I think I just want ME back !!!!!!! I just keep saying to myself... There has to be more to life than this !!!!! For some reason I thought when I was fifty it would be different, I don't know how but different.

I'd like to get a good night's sleep--all the way through! I'd like to remember what it was I was going to do just 30 seconds ago--poof! The thought is gone.

Love your handbasket and thanks for making me smile! I sure need it with not feeling so well and all. Isn't it bad enough to be getting older without having to suffer to? Anyway, I'm new here. Just found you today and am so glad becuase I thought I was the only one! What I wish I could do would be to enjoy my wine without now wondering if that isn't contributing to a worsening of these symptoms!

I'd like to not wonder if every symptom I experience is related to perimenopause or something else...should I contact the doctor because I'm truly ill, or just ignore this new symptom and add it to the list?

DITTO, Myfaith!!!!!! i wish i could wake up every morning with a smile on my face and nothing particular on my mind.i wish i could make it thru a day too without something making me cry. i find myself daydreaming about being a little girl again without a care in the world, just go out and play in the sun with my friends.i wish i had the energy to bustle thru the day cleaning and talking on the phone with my friends and go shopping and come home and happily cook a big dinner for my family. to get thru a day without feeling dizzy and then fighting off a panic attack. and finally to make it thru a day with ANY ANXIETY!!

oh boy, I just wish I could be me again, i know someone else said that here, but how true that is! Just to be me again, to NOT
worry about DYING every minute, to NOT fly into panic attacks, to NOT deal with this horrible anxiety all the time, to NOT constatly wake up all night long on and off with insane dreams, to NOT gain weight so darn easily, to NOT get so darn irritable at the drop of a hat, .... I don't know, just to feel YOUNG again, that's what I want....to feel YOUNG!

There are 3 sentences in your post that sums it all up for me and they are ..... "I just wish I could be me again" and "to NOT worry about DYING every minute" and "to NOT deal with this horrible anxiety all the time". I'm sorry you feel so horrible.

Colleen 1952

I would really like to have peace within me and not have any symptoms for one day, but i will carry on hoping.[color="#000000"][/color]

1) I'd like a good night of sleep for once!

2) Be able again to plan dinner evenings or trips with my friends and loved ones without being afraid to have to cancel them because I feel terrible.

Nic

I think this is what I wish the most too. To not have to wonder if this pain or that symptom is something serious or just nothing that will pass. I had a wierd crampy feeling in my lower right side and my skin hurt in that area for 4 days and then pain left but felt tired and weak for the first half of the day yesterday. Of course I'm convinced it's ovarion cancer!! My grandmother (mothers mother) dies at 46 of breast cancer, grandmothers sister also the same, one of my mothers sisters died at 50 of ovarian cancer, so I am always scared of that happening to me. My Mom is almost 62 and so far OK, and her youngest sister is in her 50's and OK. I wonder about the whole skipping a generation thing, etc, etc........ My dizziness must be a tumor or an aneurysm, or my heart....... My achy left arm must be my heart, my occasional shortness of breath must be my heart, My blood pressure is a bit high, so I'm going to have a stroke. You know, the list goes on and on. To be able to not have a symptom that caused me such fear would be soooooooooooo nice (I mean not have any symptoms at all, LOL) To not have any anxiety and to have the energy to do all that needs to be done, like I use to!!!!!!

faithcain,

I can relate to every word you said....I could have written that post myself, for it is exactly how I feel.

Add me to the list. I wake up everyday and analyze everything I'm feeling and always wondering... I am really working on my psyche and trying to enjoy life and let go of the constant uncertainty. It is a help to know so many others are just like me, although I am sorry for all of your mental anguish. I'm trying the Scarlett O'Hara philosophy of life -- "I'll think about that tomorrow because tomorrow is another day!"

I would love to wake up without this insipid health anxiety!!!!! Arghhhhhhhh

SusanC

P.S. I am so thankful for this forum and being able to write what I just did and know I am in 'understanding' company. Love you gals!

Oi! What a stroke of brilliance this thread is!!! I say amen to all--and add mine:

I really really REALLY wish I did not have to take regular medication!! Since age 43, I simply cannot survive without an SSRI. Believe me, I have tried SOOOOOOOO many other things! I am well now, for that I thank my Heavenly Father every day. It's just, knowing that the functioning "me" I'm able to be right now depends on that bottle Zoloft really eats up my self esteem.

Miss being young too. I'm only about 15 lbs overweight, but I HATE how my behind keeps moving 1-2 seconds after I stop! ...ew...

You guys are the greatest.

I can really relate....I've always been blessed with a voluptuous derriere , but ( ) I'm also dealing with that 1-2 seconds of motion after I've stopped walking.