I can't stand these mood swings!! I am constantly in a bitter mood, mad at the world and on the verge of going off for no apparent reason. I go to bed in a bad mood and pray that I wake up a normal person again but the moods just continue. I am under a lot of stress right now with planning my daughters First Communion and making sure every little thing is perfect. God forbid something is out of line, I think I would have a nervous breakdown. My husband says I am not approachable lately. Maybe men should walk in our shoes for a week, see if they can handle this craziness. I hate it!! I am due to get my period today and wish that I would because I get that relief when I finally get it. It's like I can breathe again. I have been missing lately so if it doesn't come then I am going to be a B**** for Saturday's party, I just know it. How do you pretend to be in a great mood when you are going thru all this?? I can take a klonopin to relax before the party but that wipes me out at times. Maybe a drink will do it. HELP!!

Hi,
I go through times like you are going through. I posted a thread called "silent rage". Sometimes I feel like I will explode from the feeling inside of me. I don't have an answer to how to get rid of it. My rage goes away when the stressful situations subside. I try to stay to myself and not be hurtful towards people I love (that is the hardest part). For me exercise helps like walking. If the weather is too bad to go for a walk I clean my house. I have a very clean house right now.

MaryB26

THANKS FOR YOUR RESPONSE!! I have been cleaning up a storm and I do walk just about everyday!! I feel the need to have my house organized lately. I am having my daughters party at a restaurant but you would think the way I am cleaning it was going to be at home. I do try to keep to myself but if anyone says the littlest comment to me, I take it the wrong way. I feel like I can just explode also. Hopefully this doesn't last too long and I can get on with my life.

I can really relate to all this ladies! First of all I've been planning a benefit for a friend who has been taken out of work because of severe seizures that the Dr's can not explain. Her medical bills have become outragous..it is this saturday may 5th. Booking singers,also pulling a car show together,the food..so everything has become so hectic these last few weeks,on top of that is my daughter and her breast cancer scare. Going back and forth to the Dr with her and monday the 8th she goes in to discuss her surgery options. THEN my son is getting married june 2nd....of course you have the usually wedding pressure but he tells me ..." we want an outdoor wedding" which is fine by me except they choose to do it in MY back yard!! and the reception in the house....so now there's getting the yard ready.......making sure the everything looks just right!..of course their both helping but they also live in another state and have full time jobs so who do you think is under the most pressure here??? Even tho it's in the back yard it's still a formal deal so I've had to buy a dress I'm probably only going to wear once...make sure my house is cleaner than usual..the yard!..my sisiter is helping some but still!!!! There are people coming here from alabama to illinois.....I need more than Calgoon folks!!...lol....I can't help but laugh...or I'll go crazy!!...lol

I have been full of anger myself these days......I don't feel like I'm being heard and of course I have to yell because of that reason. I hope this all stops soon....it's so troubling to feel this way.

I really hear you! Please don't drink, it only escalates the mood swings. I've taken the Klonopin and it really helps. That or Xanax.

I am due to get my period soon and felt such a wave of anxiety driving home from work today. I couldn't wait to get home and take something. My whole body ached from the stress. I can't stand being with myself, yet I cannot escape. Why do women have to go through periods, child birth and now this? Weren't the first 2 torture enough? And then our husbands have to live with this.

I have a few good days a month when my joints don't hurt, when I am not stressed and can enjoy breathing. I think the only thing that keeps me sane is having to go to work everyday. I know I have to act sane there.

I pray that we all find peace and sanity soon. I hope you feel better......been there, done that, got the tee shirt.

This is me now as well. hubby keeps asking me where did i go? is it that time?? mornings and evenings are rough. i swear i need to escape to the great beyond and just let all this blow over.
just to let you know you are not alone.

QUOTE (sthrnstar1 @ May 2 2007, 09:05 AM)

First of all I've been planning a benefit for a friend who has been taken out of work because of severe seizures that the Dr's can not explain.....on top of that is my daughter and her breast cancer scare. Going back and forth to the Dr with her and monday the 8th she goes in to discuss her surgery options. THEN my son is getting married june 2nd.....of course you have the usually wedding pressure but he tells me ..." .....I need more than Calgoon folks!!...lol....I can't help but laugh...or I'll go crazy!!...lol

GOOD GOLLY MISS MOLLY, opps, I mean sthrnstar1, no wonder you need more than a Calgon! Perhaps a day at the spa is more on target with how full your plate is! Actually, I believe your cup runneth over with love and that, combined with the peri worming it's way throughout your being, makes for some rather days!!!! You sound like a good hearted, very caring person who's bearing the weight for many.

So when the mood swings , just dance...because underneath all the "rock-n-roll" is one really good person--YOU!

Hope the benefit goes well, that your daughter's tests/surgery bears good news and that the wedding/reception goes off with bells ringing, birds singing, and you enjoying it all.

To all of you--msJen, kar4242, OD3PEASINAPOD, MaryB26, cyberlayde -- hang in there! Perhaps we all need a day at the spa. At least once a week!!


Oodles of hugs to all--
(((( ))))
angel

I can definitely relate to the anger. I posted about this before, but it really gets to me. I have to try to breath deeply when in traffic or I get mad, I sometimes bite the bullet and say "yes dear" to my husband because I know I'll blow up if I don't, and I don't feel like I can tell my friends about the things THEY do that are bugging me. So I go through my days with little angry chats going on in my head, and I have to turn on the radio or something to distract myself from the stuff that "pisses me off." I'm trying to shift my focus to gratitude and appreciation for what IS good, and that helps sometimes. But sometimes I'm just angry!!!!

When I saw this topic, I became curious and came to read. I have lived in fear of my mother's menopause...I was afraid that I would also suffer the rage and anger and yes, what was sometimes like a kind of insanity. I was about thirteen and she had a complete hysterectomy, so we were on a collision course. Thankfully, I have not had this kind of menopause...I do have the frustrations, but so far, so good. However, for what it is worth, my heart really goes out to the women who are going through this.
My mom and I talk a great deal about these times (I am sure readers can imagine), but one thing that she sees very clearly is that she should have let a lot of things just go...everything did not have to be perfect. On the other hand, I am not sure that she could have done so at the time.
Another thing was that she was getting hormones, but she was not getting tranquilizers. I really thing that tranquilizers may help. I know that I have them handy these days. I rarely need them, but there is something about having that option that helps. Like I said before, my heart really goes out to the women that are having these kinds of feelings.
One way that I have worked hard to avoid this problem has been by really letting go...I - okay - maybe this is crazy, but I even keep a little battery operated fan on a chain around my neck..and you know I just decided that I was going through this and dammit that is how it is...I guess you can say that I kind of let it all hang out and maybe that is my way to escape the pressure cooker...just letting off steam easily. My mother is a better woman than I am I guess because she tried to keep what was happening to her inside...and to herself. I still remember coming into her room and seeing her crying...and asking what was wrong and getting chased out. I, on the other hand, had a hot flash during a presentation and just ran my little fan and smiled at the audience.
I do think that doctors and health care professionals should try to be more helpful in ways for women to deal with these feelings - it really is terribly unfair. The times I have felt the stress building up and I tried to have a drink to make it go away, it got much worse!!!! I really pinned back everyone's ears - but I have noticed that sedatives and giving myself quiet time...insisting on about half an hour to let the calm kick in helped. I guess none of this is very helpful though...