I am having such a bad time. My PMT seems to be getting worse and worse. I am 48 and still with regular periods but my mood swings are terrible at the moment, I feel like crying at the smallest thing, angry, resentful, irritated and so stressed. How long will this go on?? I am getting really worried that my symptoms seem to be getting worse all the time. My life has been very stressful the last two years, my mother was very ill on a life support machine for 5 months and died in November and I've had to cope with that, Christmas in between, selling the house and a complicated probate with a difficult sister who doesn't support me. I have just had enough. My dr. put me on a anti-depressant which has helped but I feel as if I'm drowning at the moment. Can any of you experienced ladies tell me whether this pattern of PMT will continue getting worse or how it will develop. I feel hopeless and helpless today.

Hey Wuz:
The only thing I can tell you about this peri and menopause business is that it will pass. There are quite a few women on this board that AD's have helped. There are others that have not gotten back to "full swing" without some restoration of hormones (estrogen, progesterone, thyroid, adrenal). To each her own, I say..We're here with you every step of the way!
Love,
Avi

Hello Wuz,

Don't be to hard on yourself, LOOK at what you have been through!! Any normal person going through all that would be drained and out of sorts.

When I first started what seemed like "peri", it was about 3 yrs ago, and I was going through major stress myself. I think it made everything worse, stress is really bad.

If anything I have learned through all of this, it was to TAKE TIME and take care of myself, I needed to slow down and rest more. Things will balance in time, but be patient with your body, as you have been through so much.

Take care, Juliann

I really feel for you as stress has made me pretty darn low the past few years as well.I believe it helped the peri move along faster.Take time for you,pray,and find a way to accept that your body is changing,it is hard but you will make it.We all will(it just takes too long lol)I hope you find peace,GOD bless.

oh wuzzie-I'm so sorry-you have been through the mill-of course you feel like crying at the drop of a hat!Cut yourself all the slack you need-CRY-it's very cleansing-I lost my brother in January and I can attest that grieving is hard, exhausting work! Today is the first day in three that I wasn't crying off and on all day-When he died all my symptoms got worse-my heart was palpitating all over the place and mood swings even worse than usual-I hope things turn around for you soon but they will turn around-you are in my thoughts-you just hang on

Thank you all so much - at the moment these messages are my only source of comfort. I have been so horrible to my husband today - he is so understanding but I feel so irritable and angry and it just has to come out. I am so angry at the world and just want to be left alone - I feel nobody can really understand how much pressure I've had to cope with and it just doesn't seem to stop. Nothing good has happened to me in such a long time but I know that there are other people who are so much worse off than me. Life can only get better. But thank goodness for this site - it has helped me so much over the past few months. Please carry on giving me your support I need it so much.

Hey Wuz,

I understand that "dark" lonely place, that seem's like the rest of the world is having a good time, while you are STUCK in the doom and gloom of life!!!

I can tell you, I honestly didn't think my situation would get any better, I felt totally hopeless and discouraged for many years. The anger does build up, and you need to find a way to "talk about it" with someone, perhaps a good counselor. I am seeing one also, and it has been of great benefit.

Take care of yourself.

Juliann

Oh Wuzzie,

Sorry to hear you are having such a hard time. Hope the AD's continue to help, they can take a while to be totally effective I know and it takes a time for the serotinin levels to build back up again so be patient.

Did you do anything about seeing the lady hormone Doctor in London? Getting those balanced may help some too.

PM me if you need to and take heart that the clocks go forward this coming weekend so the longer days may help also balance the low you are experiencing. Remember you are a star, as all the other ladies have said, to have weathered such bad times so well and also a bit of what you are experiencing could be grief, pure and simple and that is just a normal reaction and something to go with, rather than fight. I know when my mum died it did not sink in for several months and then it just hit me, I was really low for some time afterwards and there was nothing I could do but sit tight and let it past.

Amanda x

Hi Wuzzie,
just to echo what the other girls have said. Losing your mum is huge I lost mine last July, she was on life support for only 2 weeks & I still feel traumatised by that so how on earth you feel after 5 months of it I can't begin to imagine.
I'm not saying it isn't PMT or at least made worse by hormonal fluctuations but I agree with Amanda, the anger, resentment & stress are typical grief symptoms.

It's so important to take really good care of yourself at this time, I didn't. I carried on rushing around, letting myself get irritable & angry with the people around me & didn't make any time for me. Consequently in October it all caught up with me & I was hit by exhaustion. I'm still trying to recover from it all but it has forced me to make healthier changes to my lifestyle & so I guess that's no bad thing.

Your mum would want you to be taking good care of yourself. Do all you can to be kind to yourself at this time & know that you are not alone & we are here to support you when you need it.
Love Marchgirl xx

Good morning Wuzzie-I'm keeping you in my thoughts today-you'll get past this-we are all much stronger than we know!

Thank you all again - how fantastic this place is. I can't count how many times I have come to my computer feeling at my wits end only to be picked up again by you all. I know I will get through this - it just feels hard sometimes. God bless you all.

Dear Wuz: You know about 5 yrs. ago I lost it with people I had gone to church with. I had been a Christian for 12 yrs. and began struggling with my appearance, aging, etc. I began smoking privately because God knows I didn't want my children to see my example. I confessed to the church leaders that I was smoking and needed prayer. They replaced me immediately with someone else to teach my Sunday School class one Sunday morning. I was so hurt. These were people I had gone to church with for 12 yrs. and most were family. The next day one of the elderly ladies called me wanting to know why the Pastor of that church referred to me as a devil. I literally thought I had lost my mind, soul, and felt so alone. I've never had a relationship with my mother, brother nor sister. They don't even call my children on their birthdays. I'm 40 yrs. old now and 5 yrs. later, I can honestly say the Lord has never left me. He has truly been closer to me than any brother. I have forgiven all those people and pray for them. There may be another situation like mine to come along and I wouldn't want anyone to have to go thru any of that with them. I read your comment and my heart ached for you. I pray the Lord bless you in such a special way and He surround you with people who will love and support you. May His hand always be upon you. Love always, Cherylynn