Sex life? what sex life? Options

[matahari]

Hi there


Is this peri stuff a mine field to manoevre or what???

I am taking vit b compex high strength, magnesium and oil of evening primrose and they are definitely helping with the anxiety and my periods seem to have regulated themselves over the last 3 months too

BUT has anyone got any ideas for boosting sex drive?? Mine appears to have upped sticks and gone, with no forwarding address!!! I feel for my husband, as I am avoiding it. When we do, it's great, but getting myself to actually get down to doing it is another thing entirely..... and to be honest it's most unlike me (blush)

From research it is down to low levels of testosterone I think.

someone mentioned zinc helps with this

anyone tried it? or anything else? I'll try anything to get it back lol

thanks

Matahari

[thunderhill]

My sex life had dried up too. But, since I have started natural progesterone cream, all those feelings have been jump-started! I've only been using it a couple weeks, so I'm hesitant to be too confident yet, but I really think it is making a difference!

[Angel1]

I hear you loud and clear. I also have no desire at all. Actually sex now makes me anxious, to the point tha I can not relax enough to enjoy it. I am taking Wellbrutin for the anxiety which has helped. It is really a shame because I was recently put os BCP so that means we don't have to use protection. We should be doing it every night. Instead I dread it. Its like you said once you get into its all is good. It the getting there that is the problem. Any suggestion girls I really need something.


Angel 1

[matahari]

hey girls

there can't only be us three suffering from lack of desire......can there??????????

Im sending out a search party for it soon and wanted ads too!!! two pronged attack!! what do ya think????

seriously tho ~ I neeeeeeeed serious help to get it back!!!

M xx

[Helene]

Count me in too, girls. My husband is a great, good-hearted man and sometimes I feel I don't deserve him.
Since I was 34-35 my sex drive has been nil. I did have a weird 4 months in 02 where (God forgive me) I watched some of my husband's porn and this guy I thought at the time was really cute really turned me on, like a light switch! After that it was like I was a teenager again with raging hormones. I even thought seriously of taking up my drumming and joining a rock band ( at 42!) All this started shortly after I cut way down and eventually got off Prozac, (this was the first time) because I was feeling so good. Well, the sex was great, I even was tiring out my husband. But remember saying to him, "enjoy this while you can, I don't know how much longer this will last". Sure enough 4 months later the old anxious feelings started coming back and it only got worse when my husband got laid off. The sex drive was gone again and has been ever since. I think now I must have went thru some kind of mid-life crisis. I'm just glad I didn't join a rock band!

[nikib5]

Count me in too (or out I guess). For me though I'm finding that to even want to have sex I need to feel my best. I have a bunch of digestive problems I'm going through plus anxiety. Those things occupy most of my waking moments, so it's tough to even try to get in the mood.

[zjsurfer]

Getting on Estrace and Testosterone were what helped me physically get my drive back. That and lots of prayer has helped the anxiety!

Zelma

[Blue Moon]

hi ladies
this is my 1st post so bare with me here...........i have had nooooooo sex drive for quite some time now........and goddess bless my hubby LOL hes tryin real hard to be patient with me.......im goin to the gyno today and hope to get some answers from her on what i can try.........im also havein her ck my thyroid levels cuz i have read that can also effect the sex drive........i have had a number of symptoms that say i may have a thyroid issue so off i go to get it cked i guess dang i hate Drs LOL but gotta do this .......ill be ckin this to see if any of u have found things that work in hopes of helpinmy sex life ( LOL hubbys too)

[caz-art]

Nope!..no sex drive here either.....it has been pretty non-existent for a couple of years or so, and it has got even worse of late that I dread even having to try!

I am doing a post meno saliva test after xmas to check my hormone levels, hopefully it will be lack of testosterone and my natural health Dr. will know what to give me.

This is not uncommon girls...I have heard it from a lot of people, but I DO need to get it back!

Caz

[Floater]

My sex drive pretty much petered out in my early 40s until it seemed to have disappeared entirely. Things still worked if I forced myself, but I just didn't want to be bothered. And when DH tried I would just get so angry with him. I have been on Paxil and BHRT for a year now, and just recently....the libido has been making a comeback! What the heck is with that???? I am glad though, cuz to be honest I rather missed wanting it. I didn't miss "having" it, because it was available.....I wasn't the least bit interested. But I missed wanting to have it.

So I am not complaining. I don't know what has happened to bring back the mojo, but I am not unhappy about it!! So there is hope, because honestly I thought it was gone forever.

[Ring]

Hi All:

Very new to this website but getting a lot of great info, and I hate to say it but, misery loves company. I really miss my sex drive. I remember always being the one talking about it, getting things going, etc. Now my husband realizes that he should have taken advantage of it while he could. As many of you write, once we get there, it is really good. It is just a matter of getting there. I used to look forward to having sex and play waiting games with my husband. Now, every time he brings it up, I just have to convince myself that it will be good. The vaginal dryness doesn't help, so I feel anxious about that because I don't want my husband to think that I don't find him attractive, or that I'm not turned on. I remember having an over-lubrication problem before menopause. Now what I do if I think we might have sex, I secretly put a little lubricant in my vagina before-hand, so he thinks I still lubricate naturally. It really *****, but helps to know that I am not alone. I've tried lots of stuff including HRT with Testosterone, didn't help that much. I don't understand why this happens to women but men are still hot to go!

Any other suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Thank You!

Ring

[caz-art]

The Elder....

Good for you, but I hate to tell you that NOTHING will turn me on, and I'm sure others who are like me feel the same....it just doesn't enter my mind, and I have NO feelings for it whatsoever.

I'm quite sure it's a lack of testosterone or the like, and I am going to be investigating this further in 2009 to have a comeback! (mmm...that wasn't meant to be a pun........!!!!)

Caz

[diluvlabs]

I too have absolutley NO sex drive the last couple of years! I am to the point where if I have to put myself through the act, (Yep, that's how I have come to think of sex!), I have no feelings at all. I may get a little turned on...but cannot have an orgasm through intercourse at all. That was never a problem for me before. I can occasionally orgasm through manual stimulation...but even then, it's more like a little hiccup, certainly not a feel good, earth-shattering event.

I would give anything (and so would hubby) to get my drive back and my ability to have a satifying orgasm. It's very frustrating to our marriage.

Good luck Ladies,
Di

[2sonsmom]

Well I think I may very well be the longest without sex here -- it has been 7 years for me and it doesn't look like it will ever return. Combined with my husband's health and just getting used to not having it, I guess I have just lost it forever.

[pookish]

T E Q U I L A -oh pardon me did i just say that? LOL

[janet c]

The elder


Just to say I have left a comment on your profile page about your graphic post above, A bit OTT for this site don't you think? Not necessary in my opinion-sorry!

janet c

[Gramz]

Ditto.....I concur with you Janet.

[Gia*]

The Elder....

Good for you, but I hate to tell you that NOTHING will turn me on, and I'm sure others who are like me feel the same....it just doesn't enter my mind, and I have NO feelings for it whatsoever.

I'm quite sure it's a lack of testosterone or the like, and I am going to be investigating this further in 2009 to have a comeback! (mmm...that wasn't meant to be a pun........!!!!)

Caz

I totally agree, caz! The point is you have to WANT to engage in sexual activity. The operative words are: WANT or DESIRE

[TidalWaves]

GRRRRRRRRR!!!!!

[the elder]

The elder


Just to say I have left a comment on your profile page about your graphic post above, A bit OTT for this site don't you think? Not necessary in my opinion-sorry!

janet c

Well Well, unfortunately you have no sense of humour!

This is by no way graphic! it's meant to be fun! and there's no need to pay out on me when you PM.

My guess is your jealous, i apologise to others who think this is graphic because my intentions were to make you all have a laugh. I guess some people need to broaden their horizons!

I would have sent you a pm back janet c but you have blocked them.....

I'll leave it up to the mods, they can remove the pics if they want...
Have a good day

[the elder]

The Elder....

Good for you, but I hate to tell you that NOTHING will turn me on, and I'm sure others who are like me feel the same....it just doesn't enter my mind, and I have NO feelings for it whatsoever.

I'm quite sure it's a lack of testosterone or the like, and I am going to be investigating this further in 2009 to have a comeback! (mmm...that wasn't meant to be a pun........!!!!)

Caz

LMAO @ comeback! Good luck

[janet c]

"Well Well, unfortunately you have no sense of humour!

My guess is your jealous, i apologise to others who think this is graphic because my intentions were to make you all have a laugh. I guess some people need to broaden their horizons!"

Thanks for your comments which are rather presumptuous!

I actually have a great sense of humour and you guess incorrectly -as I am not in the least jealous.(Actually I am always suspicious of the motives of people who boast about their fantastic sex lives because the more wonderful mine has been the less I have wished to share the details with anyone-not even my closest friends.)
If you have not noticed, this is a place where ladies are usually quite discreet even when discussing quite graphic sexual matters as I myself have done in the past. My horizons are very broad thank you but if I wish to look at graphic images of vibrators and men smeared in chocolate there are more suitable websites.

I notice Gramz agreed with my comments and I would think we are not the only ones who feel this isn't the right place.

Yes let us see if your porno pictures remain. I myself prefer the one you have just left-it's beautiful

janet c

[janet c]

The elder

Oh how interesting-your pornographic post has disappeared.

I rest my case!

janet c

[the elder]

The elder

Oh how interesting-your pornographic post has disappeared.

I rest my case!

janet c

Oh i'm sitting here laughing so hard!! i'd hate to think if i put up something really pornograph i guess you'd die of a heart attack!

Those pics were NOT pornographic, you need to move into this century and put your old fashioned idea's behind you!

There were more "ladies" who didn't comment, my guess is they could see the funny side!



And if you took the time to read my other comments you would see i usually post a pic for fun!

Lighten up love!

[janet c]

I am so please you are laughing! I must have made your day

You obviously think me a real prude and you are so, so wrong.

Pornography itself does not offend me. I know what you posted was not pornography in the true sense of the word- I was using it in a lighter sense-but honestly there is a time and place for those type of pictures and I don't want to see them here.
I have looked at some of your other pictures though and they are great.

Obviously the mod team didn't think they were suitable either as they have removed them. Imagine if we all started posting those kind of pics here! There is a gorgeous one of David Beckham in a particular state of excitement that I adore but I am not about to put it on this board-do you get my drift?

Can we please now drop it?

I hope you have a happy New Year and I look forward to seeing some of your other wonderfully funny pics!

janet c

[kar4242]

Life is too short for this girls.....I wish I had seen the picture but I didn't.

[TidalWaves]

Life is too short for this girls.....I wish I had seen the picture but I didn't.

I saw the pictures. They were not pornographic imo and I understood the elder's intent.

Oh well, can't please everyone all the time!

[TidalWaves]

I too have absolutley NO sex drive the last couple of years! I am to the point where if I have to put myself through the act, (Yep, that's how I have come to think of sex!), I have no feelings at all. I may get a little turned on...but cannot have an orgasm through intercourse at all. That was never a problem for me before. I can occasionally orgasm through manual stimulation...but even then, it's more like a little hiccup, certainly not a feel good, earth-shattering event.

I would give anything (and so would hubby) to get my drive back and my ability to have a satifying orgasm. It's very frustrating to our marriage.

Good luck Ladies,
Di

Try L-Arginine, Di. It is topical and it packs a punch!!! Can't hurt to try.

[witsend]

Yeah I agree tw -- tame and funny stuff .... "much ado about nothing," in the words of the bard.

[leanne0721]

I actually appreciated the humor of the pics, however, posting a pic of a vibrator is inappropriate.

Although the pic did not offend me, we have to consider ALL the PS sisters when making posts that could possibly offend. Whenever we have political or religious discussions, inevitably posts are removed.

The post wasn't pornographic, and the rebuttal comment wasn't made out of jealousy.

We all beat to a different drummer, and thank goodness for that! We should focus on what we DO have in common, because my guess is that it's far more than what we don't.