strange libido issue, want sex but cant feel very much Options

[mrsjones]

Hello Ladies,

This is my first posting ever on a message board...so bare with me! I am 48 and have always had regular cycles until 3 months ago and then they just stopped. So I am kinda doing a natural cold turkey at the moment and am not taking any hormonal supplements. I had hot flashes the second month of my missed cycle, but they are gone at the moment. I can also sleep again, for the first time in approx. 1 year! But low and behold, for the first time in my life I really feel hot to trot all the time for the past month. I am full of desire and love going the distance with my man, but I just can not reach the mountain top! I start off with a bang and love it, but then the stimulation just starts going away and after a while, I get so frustrated that I even sometimes "pretend" to reach the top just to please my man and to keep his spirits up for next time. I know that this probably is not the best thing to do, psychologically speaking...but life with my man at this stage is so difficult, with all my aches and pains, anger outburst and mood swings...that I just do not want to also ruin our sex life! I read that the last hormone we still have is testosterone during meno, and that might be the reason for the burst of libido. Then, I also read that estrogen is necessary in order to reach climax...which might just be the reason for this difficulty in reaching nirvana. I just started taking Remifemin about 3 days ago (2 pills morning and night) to see if my estrogen receptors might be stimulated by these pills (hope so) and the climb to the mountain top not be so strenuous . Any ladies out there have experience with Remifemin for this or other symptoms? I would like to try a bio ident. estrogen cream, but even after reading all the post here, I still do not really know where to get it. Do you need a prescription? I have found tons of sites selling progesterone cream, but none for the 3 different types of estrogen. Any advice?

[janet c]

The testosterone he gave you is too strong for women - you need a much milder version - Pete, the Power Surge Pharmacist, can help with that!

Zelma

I know this is an old topic but can someone tell me how to find Pete please-where is he to be found on the site?
janet c

[arla]

Hi Janet,
When you first log in look under transcript area and click on his name. You will find Q & A plus where you can email Pete and pharmacy. Hope this helps. Arla.

[janet c]

Thank you -found him
janet c

[LadyViktoria]

I had the same problem as all of you at one time, and whilst I had it, I researched it, and it is related to all the ups and downs of all the different hormones; not just testosterone. So, during a chat with a close friend, I told her about it, and she understood it all. She's been there, done that, and she suggested I find a product to apply that contained L-Arginine. I went googling around and finally found something called "Vigel". After about a week, although I was not 100% my old self, I was certainly able to tip the mountain in good time, and it also feels very nice.....like you would all like it! [I am trying to keep this not too graphic ] It is a topical gel.

It's only a suggestion I found worked, and it cannot hurt!

Viktoria

[Kinzee]

Hi:
I'm new. I joined this board a couple of days ago specifically to investigate what other women are doing about the libido issue. My special issue was that my orgasms were just a tiny blip, which was very frustrating. Not worth the effort to get to them. I tried Zestra. Have used it 2 times, and both times my orgasms were terrific! At $20 for 9 application, it's worth it, since I don't think I'll be getting the sensational Big O's for nothing anymore, thanks to my declining hormones.

P.S. I tried to add a smiley face, but it didn't work.
K

[candycane]

TO Super ---- I have the exact same symptoms you started post with..............I now have some sympathy for men!!! Very frustrating especially the loss of desire when touched and dryness..............I'm worried about cancer though --- throughout your experience did this seem to be a cause

[TMorris]

I too have experienced a dramatic increase in libido for about a month now. First some background... I have never been a sexual dynamite! I have been on HRTs for about 12 years (I am 40) since my full hystorectomy. I have been taking Cenestin since I was 28 and had always done well on it (even moods, not too angry) but always with the low sex drive. I had also been using the Estrogen cream Premarin for vaginal dryness. I haven't used it in a while and I'm not sure if it is directly related to my increase in libido, but it's something to consider.

About a month ago I woke up one morning and was a complete horn-dog... much to my surprise. Now it's all I can think about (which is not a bad thing.. especially if you ask my husband). I have even found myself in the erotica section of the local bookstore! Although, I much prefer feeling this way than the way it was before, I have also experienced "no O". This leads me to wonder if I have been over-stimulating myself and wondered if anyone had thought the same thing?

I'm not sure how long this hypersexuality will last, but my hubby and I are enjoying it while it lasts. He even had to tell me "No" the other night!

To all the ladies who suffer from vaginal dryness before or during sexual intercourse, we found that using KY's line of lubricants have made a huge difference and have definitely spiced up our love life.

[Juliann]

Hello TMorris,

Yep, I do know what you are talking about. During my forties, it seemed that my sexual response was either feast or famine. It seemed to be full erotica or "mute".....

As I have now entered my fifties, the "mute" is more often than I would like. My mind can be still in the game, but my body takes longer to convince.

I do believe that intimacy is important, it bugs me when I don't "feel" the things that I used to feel. I accept that as we age things are different, things take more time and that's okay. I still love sexy things and bubble baths. I enjoy feeling close to my husband and sharing time together, we are learning to laugh at all the qurks of aging.

Enjoy these feelings that you are having, they will make you closer.

Juliann

[joyceveronica]

I too have experienced a dramatic increase in libido for about a month now. First some background... I have never been a sexual dynamite! I have been on HRTs for about 12 years (I am 40) since my full hystorectomy. I have been taking Cenestin since I was 28 and had always done well on it (even moods, not too angry) but always with the low sex drive. I had also been using the Estrogen cream Premarin for vaginal dryness. I haven't used it in a while and I'm not sure if it is directly related to my increase in libido, but it's something to consider.

About a month ago I woke up one morning and was a complete horn-dog... much to my surprise. Now it's all I can think about (which is not a bad thing.. especially if you ask my husband). I have even found myself in the erotica section of the local bookstore! Although, I much prefer feeling this way than the way it was before, I have also experienced "no O". This leads me to wonder if I have been over-stimulating myself and wondered if anyone had thought the same thing?

I'm not sure how long this hypersexuality will last, but my hubby and I are enjoying it while it lasts. He even had to tell me "No" the other night!

To all the ladies who suffer from vaginal dryness before or during sexual intercourse, we found that using KY's line of lubricants have made a huge difference and have definitely spiced up our love life.

Enjoy girl!

Wish I had that same feeling.Am going to give that Premarin Cream a try and see what happens

Good for You

Warm Wishes
Elizabeth

[joyceveronica]

I too have experienced a dramatic increase in libido for about a month now. First some background... I have never been a sexual dynamite! I have been on HRTs for about 12 years (I am 40) since my full hystorectomy. I have been taking Cenestin since I was 28 and had always done well on it (even moods, not too angry) but always with the low sex drive. I had also been using the Estrogen cream Premarin for vaginal dryness. I haven't used it in a while and I'm not sure if it is directly related to my increase in libido, but it's something to consider.

About a month ago I woke up one morning and was a complete horn-dog... much to my surprise. Now it's all I can think about (which is not a bad thing.. especially if you ask my husband). I have even found myself in the erotica section of the local bookstore! Although, I much prefer feeling this way than the way it was before, I have also experienced "no O". This leads me to wonder if I have been over-stimulating myself and wondered if anyone had thought the same thing?

I'm not sure how long this hypersexuality will last, but my hubby and I are enjoying it while it lasts. He even had to tell me "No" the other night!

To all the ladies who suffer from vaginal dryness before or during sexual intercourse, we found that using KY's line of lubricants have made a huge difference and have definitely spiced up our love life.

Enjoy girl!

Wish I had that same feeling.Am going to give that Premarin Cream a try and see what happens

Good for You

Warm Wishes
Elizabeth

[TMorris]

I think I was a bit cryptic about the Premarin cream - What I meant to say is that maybe the cream was hindering my libido. I've read somewhere that estrogen is the "calming" hormone and testerone is the "horny" hormone. I believe that going off the cream helped my libido come alive. But I highly suggest trying out the new line of KY lubricants on the market... they are truly amazing!!

I will take everyone's advice and enjoy it while it lasts, but I'm somewhat bummed out that this new libido may go away with time.

[Bookworm56]

There is no way I could discuss my sexual thing with him though.
Its a great theory, though and thank you very much for your suggestion

I tell my chiropractor EVERYTHING. He's a doctor, for pete's sake! LOL
A good idea would be to find a chiropractor (perhaps a woman?) who is also a holistic practitioner. They aren't all holistic. If you find one, he/she can address nutritional needs along with correcting your subluxation issues.

I have back problems too, so I can relate to your "south of the border" difficulties.

[LadyNRed1997]

I think I was a bit cryptic about the Premarin cream - What I meant to say is that maybe the cream was hindering my libido. I've read somewhere that estrogen is the "calming" hormone and testerone is the "horny" hormone. I believe that going off the cream helped my libido come alive. But I highly suggest trying out the new line of KY lubricants on the market... they are truly amazing!!

I will take everyone's advice and enjoy it while it lasts, but I'm somewhat bummed out that this new libido may go away with time.

That's good news about the KY products. I just bought the his/hers one and I'm waiting to try it out. I hope it does work because our last few times together have been quite upsetting because I haven't been able to achieve the big "O" That was one of the greatest things about my fiance. I never had a problem with him until now and it's not him, it's me. After the last time, I just laid there and cried for like 1/2 hr straight saying this is not how I want my life to be.

Ok, getting teary eyed again, but thanks for writing about the KY. Gives me hope.

[savannah61]

I have this very strange thing I am going through-wonder if anyone else can identify? I have a very strong sensation "down there" all the time-like a needy ache. I cant stop thinking about sex, so you would think there should be no problem. However as soon as I am touched in that area the feeling just disappears. We spend ages trying and in the end always have to give up. I have always been able to have an orgasm when I want one and this is awful. I am not disliking the feelings but they just dont build any more.
As soon as we stop, the sensation returns. I end up feeling so frustrated. This has been going on for a little while. I wouldnt mind if I had no interest,which has happened in the past, but I do at present.
Ihavent had a period for 3 months by the way, until recently, which I think was brought on by vagifem vaginal tablets.
Help !!!

hi. i hope you don't mind me replying to your post so late, i just read what you said and i am going thru the same thing. i want sex, but can't quite feel anything, and just when i am getting "there" it goes away. very frustrating. and making me not even want to have sex anymore. i realize i can't do that to my husband who i love very much, but he wants it all the time, and me, i just don't so much anymore. i would appreciate any advise if you have and thank you in advance

[hisun]

Hi friend
I feel really sorry to hear about you. Please make your self disturbed. There are many medicines to remove this issue. You can try one of them. I suggest Levitra which is the newest drug and much better. You can order online by this link http://www.levitrablisss.com

[janet c]

Hi Savannah
I just saw your post. Gosh that was a long time ago. So long that I unsubscribed to the thread ages ago even though I started it!
Since that post I have been diagnosed and treated for endometrial cancer (successfully) and have just passed the three year mark!
I remember very well that feeling and I now know it was because my body was overloaded with estrogen. I was using vagifem at the time as well as already being estrogen dominant. I went on to be diagnosed with cancer because my body was so overloaded but that is not the point so don't panic! I think that during peri we can easily become estrogen dominant even if our estrogen levels are low as our progesterone goes even lower and we are out of balance. Estrogen in excess kills libido stone dead and I think this is often why women in peri have problems in that area.

The other thing is that of course all our hormones are doing weird things. I remember at other times being so sexual that I couldn't think of anything else and could keep going all day!

I think once you are through the menopause completely and your body has settled down you may find your libido returns. The ovaries will still continue to make testosterone and when estrogen drops many post meno women have a higher libido than ever!
I myself do not have my ovaries any more However I am now using a tiny bit of testosterone which has given me back my libido.
So don't worry-I am sure it is only temporary

janet c