peri with young children? Options

[Jaemama]

Hello Ladies!

Was curious to know how many of you are in peri with young children? I have 6 children, 25, 18, 16, 11, 6 and 3. It's tough having all of these symptoms, feeling awful and still trying to keep up with the needs of my kids, esp my 3 younger ones. Sigh

[joyceveronica]

Hello Ladies!

Was curious to know how many of you are in peri with young children? I have 6 children, 25, 18, 16, 11, 6 and 3. It's tough having all of these symptoms, feeling awful and still trying to keep up with the needs of my kids, esp my 3 younger ones. Sigh

Dear 'Jaemama'
You have certainly got your hands full!
One of the reasons that I opted for HRT was that I was 39 when fully Post Menopausal and my children were still relatively young.,14.10 and 6.Otherwise I am not sure I would have managed
Still this may not be the route you wish to take.There are a lot of Herbal compounds which I believe other ladies have success with so no harm in seeing an Alternative Practitioner,
Have you seen your Gyno?for full check up?It is always wise to do this and ask them to have your Thyroid tested too as this can sometimes mimic Menopausal Symptoms.
Am sure there will be a lot of other ladies dropping by to give you support ,comfort and great advice.
Meanwhile lots of luck!

Warm Wishes
Elizabeth

[TidalWaves]

This probably doesn't count, but I owned/operated a Day Care for almost 13 years. I had as many as 5 in diapers plus my dad, (who is in diapers also) when my mother had CHF and strokes. I have had as many as 10 under my feet for 10 hours a day, 5 days a week and all day shopping on the weekend, with NO help at all.

If I had had the support I needed, I may have been able to continue, but I was stuck out in nowhere land with no help.

I know how hard it is.

I finally had to quit.

Meds do work wonders though.

You will need LOTS of support through this.

Hugs,

bev

[Jaemama]

Thanks so far for the replies. I have been to both my gyn and primary care docs. Neither of them pushes peri. I've had my thyroid tested and it's normal. Also, still have monthly periods although two of the 4 or 5 days are heavy. My symptoms are bareable so at this point I am not considering HRT or bHRT but am looking for alternative things like vitamins, supplements and will try accupuncture soon. I just hate the health anxiety which I've always had but with all the hosts of symptoms...and symptoms du jour at that, the worrying is heightened. But God is good and I am so far getting through it.

Love this site where I can come for assurance from all you wonderful ladies!

[mydarling]

yeah, i've often wondered that myself...... how in the heck would you be able to raise children NOW?!!! I wouldn't!
I know a couple who have kids .... they are both 44 yrs. old, their oldest is 20 and their youngest is 3! NOT ME!
I mean, I would have to be on some serious medications!...lol.....but all kidding aside, I don't see how or WHY anyone would do that .... that must be very very hard. This woman seems to be "alright", she doesn't really SEEM to have any peri symptoms .... or else, she just doesn't have the time i guess...i dont' know. But I can't imagine dealing with a toddler feeling the way I feel .... neither of them seem daunted by it in the least .... Being that every woman is so different, perhaps this hasn't hit her so hard but still in all, by the time you're 44, you've GOT to be tired!

yeah, i've often wondered that myself...... how in the heck would you be able to raise children NOW?!!! I wouldn't!
I know a couple who have kids .... they are both 44 yrs. old, their oldest is 20 and their youngest is 3! NOT ME!
I mean, I would have to be on some serious medications!...lol.....but all kidding aside, I don't see how or WHY anyone would do that .... that must be very very hard. This woman seems to be "alright", she doesn't really SEEM to have any peri symptoms .... or else, she just doesn't have the time i guess...i dont' know. But I can't imagine dealing with a toddler feeling the way I feel .... neither of them seem daunted by it in the least .... Being that every woman is so different, perhaps this hasn't hit her so hard but still in all, by the time you're 44, you've GOT to be tired!

i meant to say they have 8 kids ......

yeah, i've often wondered that myself...... how in the heck would you be able to raise children NOW?!!! I wouldn't!
I know a couple who have kids .... they are both 44 yrs. old, their oldest is 20 and their youngest is 3! NOT ME!
I mean, I would have to be on some serious medications!...lol.....but all kidding aside, I don't see how or WHY anyone would do that .... that must be very very hard. This woman seems to be "alright", she doesn't really SEEM to have any peri symptoms .... or else, she just doesn't have the time i guess...i dont' know. But I can't imagine dealing with a toddler feeling the way I feel .... neither of them seem daunted by it in the least .... Being that every woman is so different, perhaps this hasn't hit her so hard but still in all, by the time you're 44, you've GOT to be tired!




i meant to say they have 8 kids ......

Jaemama ....... you must be a strong woman! God bless you!

[Medium at Large]

Hello Ladies!

Was curious to know how many of you are in peri with young children? I have 6 children, 25, 18, 16, 11, 6 and 3. It's tough having all of these symptoms, feeling awful and still trying to keep up with the needs of my kids, esp my 3 younger ones. Sigh

Honey you deserve a medal. Thats all I can say. My youngest is 16 and that is draining enough. I could not imagine having toddlers or preschoolers. You are a saint. lol.

[Becca233]

Yes it can be very hard. My son is only 10, and Lord knows I wish I was the old me when it comes to him, it breaks my heart. I have been doing a little better lately, but I still get the mood swings, with occassionaly rush of anxiety w/the racing heart thing. The only thing that seems to help me is a good long walk, but how do you explain that to a 10 year old. Yes, mommy knows it is 10 o'clock at night, yes mommy knows it is raining outside, but I just need to go for a walk... Well of course I can't so, I just need to try to escape just for a moment, down about 3 cups of hot tea, and pray this will shortly pass. I get it pretty bad as I ovulate, and right before my period, well I am due any day, and just had a bout of anxiety. It is passing, but honestly you are so right, and this post couldnot of come a better time. Cuz when you have kids, and you are dealing w/this, you get more anxious cuz you don't want them to see you like this...

My son and I are really close, and I know he can sense when I am anxious, and he just wants to be close to me... I tend to back off at the time, cuz I need to calm down and I honestly so affraid sometimes that he may see me in a full blown anxiety attack, which of course just make so much harder...

Just as I know I am not alone, and this forum has done wonders for my sanity, know that you are not alone either.... Blessing's on ya...

One cup of Hot Herbel tea down, and two more to go... Five deep breathes, and I should get past this...

[yetta]

Jaemama ~ You have a full house! (I went thru the peri part after
having my only one at 43--he's 16 now) I feel for you, I really do.
Try to get enough sleep! (stealing a bit of quiet time on the sofa works, too)
Geeze, I remember my lil guy sittin there watchin Rugrats, and I would
crash on the couch. Before I knew it, 30 minutes had passed.
Damn the crashing fatigue!

(Which I still get, btw)

My ol Mom's words~ after all is said and done, it doesn't really
matter if the kitchen is all clean.

I wish you a little peace in each day; some safe place where
you can rejuvenate and collect yourself so as to get thru your
busy days.

Becca, my boy is learning to drive. (I am struggling with
the ol "push him/pull him" Encouraging his advancement into
young adulthood, yet...Gee...where is my lil boy? I have moments
when I think my heart will break as he grows up and I enter
into the next 'part' of my own journey.

MediumatL

[yetta]

M'Darlng, sorry I missed you~and yes, you are correct
about being tired at 44 with a toddler. (I happened to get a late
start with marriage and am guessin I probably had only about
one egg left by then--so I was real lucky to have my healthy DS)

But in all honesty, I was still goin full steam most of the
time each day, cept when I wasn't...

I'm thinkin ignorance was bliss--I had NO idea what I had
entered into.

It's been worth it, tho. My boy is the light of my life.

[rendy]

My kids are 12 and 17 but peri started for me 4 years ago. My son was too young to "get" it and my DD was in her own hormonal h*ll. I also worked fulltime through it all. It was soooo hard. BUT, I made it and here we all are. I learned your really can survive sleeping well only every 3 days and you can go to work while panicking. I wouldn't ask this for anyone but you can get through it especially with support from the ladies here.I don't think I could have made it without them.

[bluetick]

Yes I am in peri with young children. I am 32 years old and started about 6 months ago in this hell. My children are 11, 10, 7 and 6. It is a battle most days with them. Thank goodness I finally got my husband to understand what was going on with me. The first six months were really hell because he was like oh no we just get married and I already have to deal with you being menopausal. He's not a very sympathetic towards womens hormones, but trust me day by day he is learning to. He has started to ask me daily before I get home how I am feeling wanting to know if he should take over the kids or not. He checks on me daily to make sure I am taking my meds because if I don't I get suicidal. I am trying to get a handle on my emotions so that when my 11 year old starts her period that we don't go ape on each other. I am starting to teach her that if we are a emotional get it all out but then go to your room or a quiet place and breathe. It will be okay.

[ladybugs]

I'm 42, doing the meno thing for three years so far and will potentially have a newborn at the end of the year. I've got to be nuts or just plain stupid! Maybe both, You would think owning a daycare would cure all of that "wanna be a mommy again" crap huh?

[Jaemama]

I'm 42, doing the meno thing for three years so far and will potentially have a newborn at the end of the year. I've got to be nuts or just plain stupid! Maybe both, You would think owning a daycare would cure all of that "wanna be a mommy again" crap huh?

Hi Ladies! I just love having this site and all the support and understanding. So I'll be 46 next year and peri has been more noticeable for me especially in the past year. As I said when I started this thread, I have 6 children ranging in age from almost 25 to 3! I married young, found myself divorced in my early 30s and never imagined I'd ever marry again, let alone go on to have 2 more children!

Ladybugs, I had my youngest at 42. I didn't really notice the peri thing then except that I found myself much more tired during my pregnancy and even after compared to all my other pregnancies. I chalked it up to age. And then when my youngest was a year old, my dear Mom passed away suddenly. Anxiety and depression were my days and everything else was a blur for awhile. All my physical ailments at that time were due to "stress" or so I thought. But I think it was a combination of that and my hormones starting to become whacky. You will be so in love with your new baby that I know you won't regret having him/her at this time in your life. Just be prepared to take extra care of yourself as well as your newborn.

These days, I take each day as they come. Some days are great! And I learn to enjoy them knowing that the next day could be one of "those" days. All the ladies on this site understand this. So far, my symptoms are an increase in headaches, heavier bleeding, mood swings (lack of patience!), some blue days and anxiety. They are not so bad that I've even considered HRT or bHRT. My doc likes to push the ADs on me but so far, I haven't broken down and taken those either. I do take the occasional Xanax when needed.

Just glad to have you wonderful ladies to talk to that truly understand! God bless you all!